Hi all,
So my gf and I have been dating for 3 months. Everything is great. But, she had a really bad breakup with her ex, he was an asshole and treated her like shit and then just threw her away and wouldnt talk to her....basically completely destroyed her.
We've been through a few things while dating dealing with him, including her being at a party w/o me and he was there with a date and she lost it and couldnt handle it. Now she claims to be completely over him. But, she has started talking to him online again.
He now works in nyc, where we live, vs in NJ where she used to go all the time to visit him while they dated. The dated for 5 months and he was the first guy to ever really break her heart. Basically he asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she told him sure, just hit me up whenever.
I just can't understand why she wants to talk to him. How can she still be at his beck and call after all hes done to her? She claims that she never planned on hanging out wiht him and just wanted to have the chance to deny him for once. But to me this just means shes still being effected by him and isnt really completely over him. And we cant work.
Any ideas or opinions on what this means? Or why shes still talking to him? Please let me know your thoughts.
Thanks.