Not sure what to do.

**MisterLonely** · 25-02-09, 02:20 AM

Heyy

So basically I've been really stressed out for about 2-3 weeks now always thinking about this girl that I met on vacation. We hung out a few times their and things were going good. She even stated that since we live moderatly close to each other we should see eachother sometime.

So I sent her a message quite some time ago and got no response. So I guess she doesent wanna chill anymore?

Thats what I got from it but I would like to message her again but just dont know how to do it. I was thinking like "I had a great time with you and I hope we can see eachother again" I dont know if I should say I'm missing her cause thats kinda desperate.

Yea and believe me I am trying to forget about this whole thing but I really cant so this will be the last thing I do. I'm just not feeling myself lately...

**Indignant** · 25-02-09, 02:48 AM

I wouldn't text anything that personal. how old is she?

**The_bobb** · 25-02-09, 03:12 AM

...move on

Honestly, if you texted her and she hasn't responded, that's a pretty good indication that she's just not interested...

But you wanna cling to hope, text her on St Patties, with a general, "WOOH ST PATTIES!!! Wanna hang?".

But i'd just move on =)

**lesa** · 25-02-09, 03:17 AM

Sometimes I never receive the text although I've been told it was sent so there is a chance that happened to her.

If you guys just meet, text messaging NOT the way to communicate.

**MisterLonely** · 25-02-09, 04:08 AM

I didnt text her I sent her a message on facebook.

and I believe shes in her senior years of highschool.

**lesa** · 25-02-09, 04:20 AM

Originally Posted by MisterLonely

I didnt text her I sent her a message on facebook.

and I believe shes in her senior years of highschool.

Message her on facebook? That's worse!

Ah, but you guys are highschoolers so that's normal....

**Gigabitch** · 25-02-09, 04:57 AM

Well, are you absolutely sure she's single? It's possible you were just a vacation fling for her (sorry, I know that might hurt).

The thing is, M-L, there can be so many reasons for what's going on and you won't be able to guess. For all you know, there's a perfectly good reason for her silence and she's been waiting to hear from you. Do you really have anything to lose by trying again?

**Indignant** · 25-02-09, 05:01 AM

i would start by asking a whole bunch or irrelevant questions, like:

got any plans for vacation? i am going to .....

have seen this or that movie? it was awesome, and then tell her why and say that you highly recommend it

send her a link to a youtube song that you like (better not be a love song though)

just stuff like that mainly, and then weeks into it, if she keeps responding ask her if she'd like to go see a movie with you that you've been waiting for to come out, like Watchmen

**MisterLonely** · 25-02-09, 05:18 AM

Originally Posted by Indignant

i would start by asking a whole bunch or irrelevant questions, like:

got any plans for vacation? i am going to .....

have seen this or that movie? it was awesome, and then tell her why and say that you highly recommend it

send her a link to a youtube song that you like (better not be a love song though)

just stuff like that mainly, and then weeks into it, if she keeps responding ask her if she'd like to go see a movie with you that you've been waiting for to come out, like Watchmen

Are you sure thats appropriate right after I got no response from her when I asked if she wanted to chill? It has been a couple week now though.

Indignant- Yea I know shes single....and why would she ignore my message? Does she enjoy silence?....and I thought sending another message after that was kind of desperate no?

Maybe more time needs to pass. I really don't know.

**Gigabitch** · 25-02-09, 05:48 AM

It's possible she's getting some really bad advice from friends about "making you work for it" or some shit like that.

I think you should message her again and be VERY frank about what you want and what you are offering. Don't just say, "You wanna hang out?" Come up with something better than that. Come up with a plan and pitch it to her.

**Indignant** · 25-02-09, 05:55 AM

Originally Posted by Gigabitch

It's possible she's getting some really bad advice from friends about "making you work for it" or some shit like that.

I think you should message her again and be VERY frank about what you want and what you are offering. Don't just say, "You wanna hang out?" Come up with something better than that. Come up with a plan and pitch it to her.

i was thinking that as well, but since she is so young, she might be too intimidated by a whole plan this soon.

**MisterLonely** · 25-02-09, 07:59 AM

So would you reccomend me just sending my initial message or changing it a bit?

Whats the best approach now?

How is something like this

I really enjoyed your company, and hope we can hang out sometime and have a coffee. If you want to, let me know. If you would rather I let you alone, then just let me know that, too.

Maybe I should try back in a month or something eventhough I have waited 2 weeks?

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