my boyfriend finished with me 3 weeks ago and i was devastated, really heart broken and i didnt handle it very well. for the first few days i phoned him and txt him begging him to take me back , which i know was a mistake. I know i should cut contact with him but the thing is, we work in the same office and see each other every day, so cutting contact is impossible. Although i have stopped contacting him outside of work. but evenings and weekends are killing me cause he's not around. especially this weekend. we were meant to be going to london to watch a football game this weekend, but he has taken a family member instead. im finding today sooo hard because i know that i should be there with him, not stuck at home alone crying over him. i feel like im never going to get over him when im seeing him every day. im trying to go out more and do new things and keep busy...but somedays i just dont feel like doing anything. it also hurts that he comes into work and acts like nothing has happened and he seems fine. he seems to have moved on already and i just cant. are things ever going to get any easier?
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28-02-09, 07:19 PM #1
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will it ever go away.............
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28-02-09, 10:23 PM #2
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The good news is, YES it will get easier.
I want you to check out one of my older thread.
[url]http://www.loveforum.net/broken-hearts-forum/27783-do-you-want-stop-hurt.html[/url]
It just takes time and effort from you. It sounds like you are doing all the right things so you just have to keep it up and you will start to feel better.
About him worrking with you though... I know you cant avoid him completely but try your hardest to. I know you probably want to see him but right now you just cant. And he probably is hurting just not as much as you or he isnt showing it. It is natural for one person to not feel the pain as much because they might have lost feelings.
You will pull through this, just give it time.
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03-03-09, 11:24 PM #3
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I should say, it's really hard especially in your case, you're always seeing each other as office mates. Moving on is not easy, it will take time.. but you can do it step by step. I'm sorry cause all I can tell you is go out with your friends and enjoy yourself just to forget about him even for a moment. Even if you're thinking of him, you can ignore him in the office.. maybe that will help you to start moving on.. or if it's possible for you to move in to other office.. if your company has branch near your house, then do it. Or get another job just for you to move on.. but nowadays, it's also hard to find a job though. But if you can, do it so you can start over again.
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04-03-09, 12:26 AM #4
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Susan, you're going to be fine, but it takes a long time. Sometimes it takes years. Kate is right- you should try to find another job.
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04-03-09, 08:28 AM #5
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It would be quite hard to find another job now with todays economy.
There has to be a way to not see him as much in the office. Move to a different part of the office? I dont know how big the office is, I've worked in offices where you could see the guy at the other end of the office just fine and I've worked in some where it was a 3 min walk to get to the guy at the end of the office. (well in this case a different floor)
you will start feeling better. Time heals all wounds.
I dont know if this will help but when my gf and I broke up I was a wreck as many people on this forum know from my posts. It has been 3 months and although I'm not 100% better this is the happiest I've been in a long time! Try doing some of the things I suggested in that thread I linked to. You can pull through this!
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10-03-09, 06:47 AM #6
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Thanks everyone....i really appreciate your help. i have to be honest....im feeling a lot better lately. i was off work for a few days and i think the time away from him really helped. Although i was on a wee bit of a downer when i went back today and seen him again, although it didnt last long. i cant avoid him in work, he sists 2 seats away. i am hoping to get a transfer but i think its going to be a few weeks before i hear anything about it. He's trying to be really friendly with me at the min but i just dont know of its a good idea or not
