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    My boyfriend is very touchy-feely in public...

    He always seems to want to have a hand on me in some way: on my back when we're walking, around my shoulders or on my knee if we're sitting. I don't mind it at all, but I've never had a boyfriend be so overtly physically affectionate in public. Does anyone have any thoughts regarding what this indicates? Is it possessive, sexual, or just affectionate? Some combination?

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    It's all of the above. Does it make you uncomfortable?
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    It doesn't actually. Mostly because I really do like him a lot. If I were on the fence, I think I'd find it annoying.

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    Are you hot?

    Maybe he just wants to beat his chest a bit to any interested males.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tigereyes12 View Post
    He always seems to want to have a hand on me in some way: on my back when we're walking, around my shoulders or on my knee if we're sitting. I don't mind it at all, but I've never had a boyfriend be so overtly physically affectionate in public. Does anyone have any thoughts regarding what this indicates? Is it possessive, sexual, or just affectionate? Some combination?
    If it annoys you let him know, cause its not something you want to leave fester. You'd be surprised first time your relationship goes through a rough patch it could come up.

    Humour can be a good tool, try playfully slapping his hand away telling him not to touch in public, Hopefully he'll pick up on you setting limits without his ego getting hurt.

    As for why he does it, it can be down to wanting to show you of as arm candy. Though I've always been quite affectionate in public and liked to be touched and cuddled all the time, but that's just me. It could just be the way your bf is as well. A lot of people just like loads of non sexual intimacy and affection, so if he abides by your limits make sure you make an effort to show affection physically (apart from sex) in private.

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    he's pissing all over you. marking his territory
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    Quote Originally Posted by ecojeanne View Post
    he's pissing all over you. marking his territory
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    lmao!

    just to clarify NO
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    Quote Originally Posted by ecojeanne View Post
    lmao!

    just to clarify NO
    I knew a guy at work who was into that stuff.

    In fact, he did a lot of things that would make me blush.

    He got tired though.

    EDIT: I meant fired.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tigereyes12 View Post
    He always seems to want to have a hand on me in some way: on my back when we're walking, around my shoulders or on my knee if we're sitting. I don't mind it at all, but I've never had a boyfriend be so overtly physically affectionate in public. Does anyone have any thoughts regarding what this indicates? Is it possessive, sexual, or just affectionate? Some combination?
    I predict this will be one of those things you "don't mind" now while you are still in the early stages, but later on will annoy the hell out of you.
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    Why do you think so?

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    consider yourself lucky. i love to have sex in public.

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    Personally, I think he is insecure. He wants everyone to know that the TWO of you are together.. AND BACK OFF... He probably does this without even noticing. Does he call you alot, ask where you are all the time or when he's talking to you on the phone does he ask who is there? My husband used to do this in the beginning of our relationship. He was always jealous or possessive... He is latin, so it is expected... But I am in NO WAY A JEALOUS person. I could care less if he went to a strip club or so on... So I told him, unless he wants to lose me forever he better chill out. I straightened his ass out right away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tigereyes12 View Post
    Is it possessive, sexual, or just affectionate? Some combination?
    Along those lines, plus a little clingy. Clingy could be read as insecure about potentially loosing you. Which could be read that he can't believe his luck that he's with you. Which on the downside can be read there will be more clingy behavior later on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mishanya View Post
    Along those lines, plus a little clingy. Clingy could be read as insecure about potentially loosing you. Which could be read that he can't believe his luck that he's with you. Which on the downside can be read there will be more clingy behavior later on.
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