Girl Overreacts

[Hollywood]

Okay, I say this. It doesn't make sense for your girlfriend to say you are everybody's chauffeur if this was a one time deal. It has happened more than one, I'm sure of it. Why am I sure of it? Because you admitted in your reply that you have a hard time saying no.

The next time someone texts you to something you need to let them know that you will talk it over with your girlfriend first. If your girlfriend disagrees and you really want to fulfill the request... ask you girlfriend to ride with you. That way you are including her and not disregarding her feedback.

For one, when you are in a relationship you shouldn't be doing other duties every time you are called upon. If they are your friends you should try talking to them about being independent!

[vashti]

The next time someone texts you to something you need to let them know that you will talk it over with your girlfriend first.

If they are your friends you should try talking to them about being independent!

This sounds like an obvious contradiction.

[Hollywood]

Not really. I don't see the harm in doing a favor for a friend but if it becomes a habit... then I would talk to my friend about doing something to help themselves and not be so co-dependent.

Also, if he has any consideration for his girlfriend he should ask if she is okay with it instead of being a YES man.

[littleninja007]

She says am I everybody's chauffeur because I take my mom to work every day and fetch her cuz she can't drive at the moment. I give my MALE friend lifts as well, to band practise or to soccer meetings cuz he has no transport himself.

I have NEVER given any other female a lift in that situation. I have a hard time saying no, agreed, but thats in general not just because I've been asked for a lift.

Basically I must ask my GF's permission before I do anything, because I don't know if it will upset her or not?

[lovesjoyajm]

Try telling your girlfriend that you will try to be respectful of her wishes (ie insecurities) but she needs to be clearer about what bothers her. You don't owe it to her in any way to ask for permission, but if she clearly has a problem with something, it is considerate to try to avoid it. BUT that means she needs to tell you AHEAD OF TIME if she has a problem with something you say you are going to do, rather than waiting till later to whine about it!

[jadelil25]

I seriously think that she is over reacting and if you have spoken to her about it and she wont change then it is time to get out of the relationship. She clearly does not trust you which is not good. If she can not trust you then the relationship will not work. Trust is a very important basis in a relationship.

She should not expect to have no friends or spend time with them. Your girlfriend is clearly imature and has a lot of learning to do and also needs to grow up.

You are better off with out her. You are still young and have plenty time ahead of you to meet someone who will give you the respect you deserve and someone who is mature enough to be in a relationship. End it now before she takes over your life.

Go out and have fun with your friends. Take your mind off things and you will meet someone else when you least expect it. Just enjoy being young and single.

[vashti]

Don't ask permission. You aren't her child. You should try to be respectful of her insecurities of course, but please keep your balls intact.

[littleninja007]

She just makes it seem like I should ask permission... We fight constantly lol.. I admit we are both a bit stubborn, but we mostly fight over silly things that she overreacts to or should not be a problem normally.

I will give it a week and see how things go. Then confront her (which is a mission in its own) if things haven't changed or so.