Depression and relationships

[Cbrider]

She's living there rent-free?

I think there is a lot of potential for problems when you try to mix depression and relationships. Personally, I think you should stop the alcohol and drugs, get a different counselor that you like better, and tell this girl it is time for her to contribute financially to this household. You are too young for all this responsibility.

I would have been okay with the antidepressants if you had been using them as ordered, but since you aren't, I don't think they are helpful either.

I take an anti depressant and drink, but by no means heavily. Maybe once or twice a week and I only get drunk maybe once a month tops. Idk, its a pretty bitter and uphill battle with depression if you don't have science on your side. Mine take like 2-4 weeks to really activate, but when they do I am in a cloud nine mindset and pretty much impossible to piss off generally speaking. My last gf didn't like that I was on my anti depressant, she said it changed me...killed my spontaneous personality.

Speaking from a personal standpoint I think its important that he be ON his medication to help cope with the stress, it also curbs your temper a lot. I don't do drugs, but I can imagine that its only detrimental to the situation. Rather than stay off the anti depressants, how about get off the drugs and alcohol? Seems to me that the problem isn't going to fade unless you get rid of the underling cause.....

P.S. Shes living rent free after being kicked out of her old place and she wants to argue with you? Why was she kicked out in the first place?

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

If I was living rent free in someone's house oh I'd be kissing their ass lol, or at least try to contribute in some form of way. Like groceries, some form of bills, etc. SOMETHING!!!

As for depression medicine...IDK I'm kinda iffy about em. My oldest bro had them(not sure which brand) and he said they made his depression worse. He joked and said "what kind of depression medicine has depression as a side effect" lol. But if it works for you and makes you feel better it may be best to keep on taking them.

I'm not telling you anything no one said previously. I just wanted to add my two cents about her living there lol.

Oh and btw, am I the only one who thinks it's a red flag that there's silly arguements only three months living in together?

[vashti]

As for depression medicine...IDK I'm kinda iffy about em. My oldest bro had them(not sure which brand) and he said they made his depression worse. He joked and said "what kind of depression medicine has depression as a side effect" lol. But if it works for you and makes you feel better it may be best to keep on taking them.

Depression isn't really the side effect - suicide is. Depressed people who may have ordinarily been too depressed to have the energy to plot out a suicide have been known to feel so much better, they have the energy to follow through with it.

Cbrider - I said I don't have a problem with antidepressants when they are used as ordered. I've known Kiechi for a long time, and I initially recommended he go on them, but if he's using them as another way to get high, I'd say cut EVERYTHING off, detox the body, and maybe later, he can start again. Of course, another factor is that drug and alcohol abuse can be the reason he is depressed in the first place, but he won't know unless he cleans up.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Sorry Vash, that's actually what I meant to say. hehe.

[Cbrider]

Cbrider - I said I don't have a problem with antidepressants when they are used as ordered. I've known Kiechi for a long time, and I initially recommended he go on them, but if he's using them as another way to get high, I'd say cut EVERYTHING off, detox the body, and maybe later, he can start again. Of course, another factor is that drug and alcohol abuse can be the reason he is depressed in the first place, but he won't know unless he cleans up.

Yar, I just misinterpreted what you said then

[GemStar]

Mish --- We argue over the silliest things, like talking a bit too loud in public or being overly crude, she used to laugh at that stuff. She'll argue with you over a pillow. We've argued about me going off on my own when things get rough, which I am guilty of, which isn't good. So she's gone out tonight with her mates at a bar to make me feel the way she feels when I go. She always says I start alot of the arguments, which I suspect may be true. because sometimes she can really iritate me especially when she can't remember things cos' she goes on how im talkin' shit. Been crashing together for 3 months now?

It sounds like maybe the two of you are closer than you think you are. Maybe deep inside, you guys are more comfortable with each other than you really think. Just my first impression.... And some of this just seems plain childish.

Definitely, I would remain sober and the answers will reveal themselves. I got a med to help with severe hyperactivity disorder in the last year and it helped GREATLY but then I kept drinking anyway which ruined the benefit. I always seem to be confident and happy when I'm sober and confused and depressed after drinking. Anyhoo....

Yeah.

[Kiechi]

Depression isn't really the side effect - suicide is. Depressed people who may have ordinarily been too depressed to have the energy to plot out a suicide have been known to feel so much better, they have the energy to follow through with it.

I tried doing myself over last Christmas. I feel so silly about it now, because it meant nothing. Nothing to her anyway now.

Cbrider - I said I don't have a problem with antidepressants when they are used as ordered. I've known Kiechi for a long time, and I initially recommended he go on them, but if he's using them as another way to get high, I'd say cut EVERYTHING off, detox the body, and maybe later, he can start again. Of course, another factor is that drug and alcohol abuse can be the reason he is depressed in the first place, but he won't know unless he cleans up.

Day 1 off drugs and booze, just need to quit the smoking now... will update! (or maybe keep up a new thread?)

It sounds like maybe the two of you are closer than you think you are. Maybe deep inside, you guys are more comfortable with each other than you really think. Just my first impression.... And some of this just seems plain childish.

I love that notion, not so sure if that's true though. She has her own fair share of problems, but I think the first step I need to make is in fixing MYSELF, rather than her.

[vashti]

What was the problem with your therapist, Kie?

[Gigabitch]

So she's gone out tonight with her mates at a bar to make me feel the way she feels when I go.

Oh, what? Relieved? I'll bet she has no idea how glad you are to get five minutes peace with her out of the place.

She sounds like a pain in the ass, Kie. The honeymoon is over, isn't it? I think you should throw her out and come back to US.

I say go back on the meds and quit drinking, you ****ing 'tard. If you kill yourself, at least do it on purpose. I want to fly all the way over there to shake you until you're sick, you jackass.

Look, drinking and medication don't mix. They just don't.

[Revelation1412]

As bad as things are, sometimes we just need to remember that there are a lot of people out there who are having even a more difficult time than we are.

[tooxshort]

No one is worth killing yourself over. And you're killing yourself slowly with all the stuff you're doing ... drinking while on prescription meds? Come on ... your friends and other peers are worth way more than a chick.

Giga made a point, the honeymoon's over ... now this is where things are getting real and her old polite laughs are done for. If she is unable to even TRY to understand your emotions, then I don't think it's a great match, my friend.

[Lite]

Well, partly it depends upon what anti's etc you're on. First off, you need to TELL YOUR DOCTOR wtf you're doing for drugs. He isn't going to turn you in, but he will do something useful, like NOT PROSCRIBE WELLBUTRIN if you smoke pot. (A good dose of pot + Wellbutrin = Psychotic break in many people...)

So, you quit your therapist. Why didn't you find another one that you are comfortable with rather than dropping it outright?