Do you knowingly or unwittingly keep dating these types of men?
A history of repeatedly abusive relationships (emotionally abusive in this case) can be a sign of latent abuse in the past (physically, emotionally, and/or sexually)...
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen