Help me?

[Bosco]

Okay, where to start. I am 15 years old and I (think) I'm in love with a friends younger sister (who is 13).

I met her about half way through last year and we started contacting mostly through txt and IM (we still do, I see her occasionally but not as much as I would like). As our friendship began to build and I sorta developed emotions for her. I am completly knew to this scene. I've had crushes before, but they were nothing compared to what I feel for her. And I'm a complete novice. I've never had a gf, never kissed a girl, never gone on a date, etc.

I've told her I've loved her and shes said the same back, which could mean she loves me, or that she likes me as a friend (as the word 'love' is tossed around way to much these days and has the same value as 5 yen).

I want to ask her out, but as I said, we dont see each other much, maybe about 5 minutes a day if we are lucky (though we normally txt until late in the night most nights(or early into the morning on weekends and holidays). I don't want to risk ruining our friendship, maybe I should wait?

But Im also terrified of what would happen if we actually started dating. Mostly of when the day would come when she meets my family, or my family meets hers.

The reasons for this is because I am very different from my family.

I am Christian. they are athiest.
I am Vegetarian, they sneak meat into my stirfry.
I am abstinent, my brother lost his virginity at 13.
I hardly ever swear, my family swears heaps.

My family think I'm going through some phase (which has lasted two years) and reckon I will come around sometime soon.

Anyway, where was I? Oh yeah, her family are strictly Christian and look like saints compared to my dysfunctional family. Would they judge me on the way my family acts?

What should I do? Take a plunge and ask her out? Wait a few months/years or just give up all together.

Thanks for the help.

[Cain]

First of all, she's far too young to be dating. If I was her father, I'd make sure you knew that when I told you that you wouldn't be allowed to see her.

Secondly, what makes you think you love her? You mention that the word is thrown around so often, but do you not know that that is what you're doing? Do you even know what love is? At 15 I highly doubt it.

Just enjoy being young. Don't worry about a relationship right now, especially one with a girl that's 13.

[Bosco]

Haha. I guess we are young. And 13 isnt really that young. Well, not where I live anyway.

And please don't patronize me because of my age. I hate it when people do it. I have an IQ of 138, so please don't. And I don't know what love is, all I know is that I can't stop thinking about her and whenever I see her my heart starts racing. So yeah ;P

[Cain]

Haha. I guess we are young. And 13 isnt really that young. Well, not where I live anyway.

And please don't patronize me because of my age. I hate it when people do it. I have an IQ of 138, so please don't. And I don't know what love is, all I know is that I can't stop thinking about her and whenever I see her my heart starts racing. So yeah ;P

I don't care if you're IQ is 180. It still doesn't mean that you're mature. And if you want to start trying to justify your actions with your intelligence, you might want to learn the difference between new and knew.

Where do you live? If you're in the US, then 13 is still young and I can almost assure you that every single parent on this forum will tell you the same thing I am regarding their child dating at 13.

You're infatuated with this girl. It's a crush. That's all. I stand by what I said. She's far too young to be dating. What would you even do? Hitch a ride with your parents to the playland at McDonald's?

[Bosco]

I live in New Zealand. And I won't rise to pety insults, unlike you. Insulting me because of my age, and your calling me immature?

And, oh nos I r mad a spellin mastake! I r must b dum! Oh nos, I r alredy dumb coz I r not oldz!!!!!

I came here hoping for confidential advice, not where I'd be ridiculed for my age. I was obviously mistaken. I hope that everyone on this forum isn't as pathetic as you.

EDIT: And for the record, my grandparents started dating at 12. They have been happily married for 50 years, thank you very much!

[RedBus]

Clearly you came to this forum for confirmation of what you were going to do anyway and not for help. So go and date your pre-teen and stop trying to act more mature than you really are.

[Bosco]

If I had been older I would have recieved different replies. Sorry I didn't live up to your expectations, I will look somewhere else then where people are less ageist.

And Redbus, I really have no idea what I am going to do. Should I wait until Im older (haha...)? should I go for it? or should I just let our friendship run its course. I also have a fear of rejection and don't want to ruin our friendship. It was also hard for me to build up to the confidence to say this (even though I know none of you), so yeah, thanks.

[RedBus]

The problem is that you are not older. And if you were you would not be posting here but kissing her.

[RedBus]

Sorry for not giving a proper answer. The tone here went insulting too quickly.

I vote for stay friends.

[Bosco]

The problem is that you are not older. And if you were you would not be posting here but kissing her.

yeah, because all the people who come here for advice are 15, I guess?

And, alright. If that's what you think is best. It can't hurt to wait.

[Cain]

Of course the replies would be different if you were older. But, you're not. You're 15. She's 13. If this is normal in your country then feel free to do as you please.

You think I was insulting you? Please. You'll know it when I insult you.

[glow]

oh my stars
she should be talking about pokemon!
you may only be 2 years apart but when you're 13 that's a huge deal.
just drop the whole thing.
you are definitely NOT in love.