How can I tell this guy I love him?

[L-isa]

Hellooo,

So..to get right to the point.
I kind of don't know how to tell this guy I've been madly in love with him for about 5 months. YES. 5 freakin' months.. that's a long time of not telling I know, I know.
BUT I do have some good reasons for that, so wait just a little bit longer, before calling me pathetic.

Well, the main reason is that he is my bestofthebestest friend. I really don't want to lose his friendship over this.. and the second reason is that he is the guitarist of the band I'm in.. not so smart either right?

Let me try to tell you how it went.. and if you don't feel like reading the story than just scroll down and please help me with thinking of a way to tell him, because I really can't hold this in any longer..

It all began a long time ago.. we we're cycling home from band practice and we were talking about the bassist and drummer of our band.. we thought that they liked one another and that they did that in a more than being friends kind of way.. so we were talking about them and I don't know how, but he suddenly started telling me he loved me!! I was in shock at first and didn't know what to say.. I liked him, but not enough to jeopardize our friendship or band for it.. I wasn't ready for having a boyfriend either. So I told him the truth and left him kind of sad.
I don't know what got into my mind.. but I felt super super super guilty by leaving him all sad.. and because of that I couldn't stand being around him, because my guilt would grew when I saw him.. I felt like I was responsible whenever he was sad and I felt like his whole mood was in my hands. I don't know.. It felt really bad. I didn't want to be the reason he was sad, but I couldn't make him happy either, because back then I couldn't return his feelings, well at least not without taking any risks. There was a big distance between us.. I didn't dare to look him in the eye anymore, because guilt would just overwhelm me whenever I did that and when he said something sweet I reacted pretty cold.
After a few weeks I couldn't stand the distance between us anymore.. and I missed our closeness and our friendship.. I really missed him. I guess that's when I started realizing I just couldn't live without him.. but that's a normal feeling for friends right? At least I thought it was.. until I started feeling more and more for him.. I started thinking about him all day long, I started dreaming about him and suddenly I got the need to touch him, whenever I sat next to him.. I just wanted to grab his hand or hit him playfully in the arm. At first I told myself it was because he told me he loved me and I just liked the feeling of being loved.. or whatever, but as the months passed me by I just couldn't make up anymore reasons for why I was feeling this way and I stopped doing that. After that I just loved him.
And now I still do..
I HAVE TO TELL HIM. I don't think I can wait any longer..
But what if he hates me for rejecting him? Or what if he only wants to be friends now? He has probably moved on and doesn't want to go back to the time he did love me.. damn. WHY DIDN'T I JUST LOVED HIM THIS MUCH BACK THEN? Would have been a lot easier and less painful.

But hey.. he told me.. so I owe him.. I have to tell him that I love him. That's for sure. It's only fair.
But how am I gonna do that?
I'm not really an expert on confessing my feelings.. I suck at it may I say.. I really do.
Maybe a gesture will make it easier.. another way for telling him that I love him..
I could just kiss him and then make a run for it. Haha.
But actually I was hoping one of you guys could help me out with that.

So basically I need a way to tell him that I love him.. without using too much words.
Yup.. I'm confusing I know.. I have been dealing with myself for 16 years now, so I know..

Well.. I'm sorry for this lame talking of mine. I will quit it right here and now.

BYE,

PS: I'm not English.. so please try to ignore my mistakes!

[Anomaly]

I think that because you have been friends for so long, you should just come out and tell him. If you are really close friends, you will still be close friends no matter what. What if he jumps right into your arms?

You know what? I told a close friend that I care about her a lot a few months ago, but she told me she was with somebody. And I accepted it because our friendship means the world to me, and I haven't mentioned it since. If she came out and told me that she loves me right now, I'd be the happiest guy on the planet! And I plan on waiting as long as I have to, because I love her so much. And your story gives me hope, because deep inside, I know that she loves me too!

Best of luck!

[L-isa]

Thanks for that post, I appreciate it very much.
I now realise it's not really that big of a deal, you are waiting for her and I'll wait for him if he says no to me. The worst that could happen is that he rejects me, but we still be friends. SO. I guess, I'll just tell him.. what about.. tommorow?
Whoo. The two of us are going to play an acoustic set on my uncle's birthday, I'm excited.
Any tips on how to start telling him..?
Something like: We need to talk.., I need to tell you something.
How did you tell her?
I think it's very cool of you to wait on her for that long, she must be very nice =) and I really hope that she realises she loves you soon!

Bye,
Lisa