Am I stupid for feeling this way

[IndiReloaded]

Oh, sure you can. But that requires honesty. There are plenty of couples who are happy with 'open marriages'. Meaning that it is agreed, between them, that each can go outside the marriage for sexual encounters. Sex isn't a huge deal to many people. There are usually agreed conditions, such as being sexually safe, and discreet, but the point is that couples do this.

Any argument that someone would cheat and not tell their spouse to 'protect them' is just full of shit & deluding themselves. There are alternatives, they are just too lazy and selfish to try them.

[bud2075]

I guess Im not nearly secure enough to let my wife have an affair with my consent,to me that seems like a betrayal of what a commitment is supposed to be about..It never occured to me to sleep with someone else during my marriage,even if it was to "get back at her"..I feel if 2 people love each other than they should be able to work through any potential difficulties including the one that deal with sexuality..As far as the size issue goes, I guess its just a personal preference thing,and I am learning and coping to try and not let it define me as a man.

[hohol]

i will warn you if you get back with your wife now i 'm sure she will do it again and even if it isn't the case you will be living in a lie so you'd better get divorced as soon as you can if you have kids then that's the best option gueting away from her and telling your children about it i know it's hard but that'll make them respect you and admire you i tell you this because this society of ours doesn't accept weak personnalities