We have been together for over 3 yrs, hes 31 im 29. we have had are share of problems, but have always gotten threw them. I knew when we first started dating he like porn, i didnt have a problem with it, we watched it together. Had a great sex life for the 1st 2 yrs.
Needless to say for the past year it has dwindled down to nothing, its horrible. if i'm lucky forplay once a month, usually woken up at 4am by it. He still watches porn all the time, now w/out me.... Which now bothers me, cause are sex life is nothing. I know for a fact he is not cheating on me. I have done everything to get threw to him, cried, screamed, letters, talks etc... He has every excuse, im to tired, im to drunk, you didnt try anything, its to late, to early etc...
So I come on to him, and again same excuses. He still tells me he loves me, im beautiful, hes attractive to me. I'm a extremely sexual person, and he's always known that, he was once too. Its killing me inside. I love him so much, but i cant take care of it "myself" much longer. He always says he will try to make it better, "Rome wasnt built over night", is his usual comment. I need and want attention and intimacy, I dont understand what is going on?!?! I've heard "he's probably depressed, which yes that could be some of it. We have both been laid off since last june. It sux, but he's having the time of his life, plays games all day, sleeps till noon, watches porn, does absolutly nothing. While i do understand im currently laid off too , but i'm cleaning, cooking, errands, kids etc, while he does nothing. Is it to much to have sex maybe just maybe at least once a week. Please someone try to tell me why this is going on!?!?