Hi,

I am in a bit of a state over an attraction i have developed for an innappropriate man. I am 37 next week and have been single a couple of years. Was planning to stay that way and had no real desires to find a man at all. This guy is quite unattractive, has bad habits and an awful dress sense. just to begin with....

I met this man thru my cousin. I had no feelings except repulsion when i first met him. he ended up giving me his phone number and i told my cousin to let him know that i was absolutely not interested. but for some unknown reason and without thinking i kept the bit of paper with his number on. it also had some other numbers on it that my cousin gave me.

Well a few months have passed. I generally only see this person either at my cousins or at the pub when i pop in to meet my cousin (she and I are close). she works in the restaurant at the pub. He always looks at me and it used to creep me out. I would avoid being anywhere near him.

Now for some reason there began being times where i felt compelled to smile back at him. And over time i find more and more if he is about that we spend alot of our time smiling at each other and catching each other looking. If we happen to be in the same table we have our feet pointing towards each other constantly and just cant keep our eyes off each other. we are always smiling and laughing at each others jokes and i feel like i can completely relax around him and don't need to try at all. lol In fact he likes the things about me that most men would be turned off about.

I really wanted to remain single. this man seems to be a really nice gentle guy and i don't want to hurt him knowing my track record. Also we don't seem to have alot in common. But the feelings i get when i am near me are very strong and i don't know why i feel that way. i feel like he has cast a spell over me or something. How could i feel this way when i was repulsed by him before and i definately didn't want a man in my life?

any advice would be much appreciated. thanks