I rejected my best friend...

[carl1222]

How long should I wait before I tell her how great she is? She won't talk to me now.

Shes blocked me on msn so I'm guessing she doesn't want to talk right now....

Let's see ...

Meko: I'm really going to miss her company and miss talking to her.

Meko's Friend: Been crying every night and she can't concentrate on anything.

Whose feelings should count for more?

I'm assuming (maybe wrongly) that you want to do the decent thing ... you lost a friend, she lost someone she loves. No contest. Pardon her for screwing up your friendship, you'll get over it.

Stay the F*K out of her life! Period. You have nothing to offer to her.

Carl.

[Junket]

He's a guy, he wants to fix it.

Meko, this is a common trait for males, we naturally want to fix things. However, this compulsion in times such as your own, only makes things worse.

Don't.

Try.

To.

Fix.

This.

One.

[meko]

I just thought that if I talked to her it might make her feel better

Guess not....

[ritah59]

Hello Meko,

If you are feeling guilty for the present state of mind the friend is in, then my advice is: don't. Feeling guilty will not serve any purpose.

The friend's actions only show that she is through the transition process. The non-stop all-night crying reveals the pain that she might have been going through, and this pain may have been there as a result of some incident before her talk with you about going out. What I am saying is that you may not be the direct cause at all.

The blocking your id on MSN, etc only prove that she has withdrawn into her shell.

Give her some time, and be alert to the possibility of her coming around, and behaving with you as if nothing happened, or you bumping into her on some road-corner some day, or whatever. Whenever this happens, extend the hand of friendship, and take it from there.

Best,
R.

[Junket]

I just thought that if I talked to her it might make her feel better

Guess not....

That's the spirit!

Consider this thread a virtual slap in the face.

When she's ready to talk to you she'll know where to find you. Don't take that opportunity from her, she's hurt a lot more than you, let her go at it her own pace.

[Anomaly]

I wish that I had that problem.. But I'm in her boat when it comes to this situation.. Just give her some space and time to think, and I'm sure that after a while your friendship will still continue. Right now she just needs some time to get over the rejection, and I'm sure that your friendship means enough to her that after a while she will want to be friends again. Best of luck to you!