To the guys: would it matter to you ...

[rose36]

if a woman has a roomate? I am considering taking in my 41 year old disabled nephew who has type 1 diabetes. He is fine mentally but has been disabled by two strokes and can barely sign his name. The doctor said he shouldn't live alone. He is home a lot but does some odd jobs on occassion. But not very often. Having privacy with a man is an important consideration to me. He is the type that tends to stay in his room and watch T.V.
Thanks for any/all opinions.

[IanReynolds]

A roommate? Is he going to be sharing your bedroom?

I've once had sex with an audience, never again!

[rose36]

ha, ha! of course not. He would have his own room!

[Lite]

I would be concerned about how his presence affects our long-term relationship prospects, and how living together would take shape when including a 3rd (and disabled) adult that isn't part of the romantic relationship.

[Gribble]

I don't think it would bother me terribly much. I'd have a great deal of respect for any woman willing to do something like that for someone who needs help.

[Doc Durian]

if a woman has a roomate? I am considering taking in my 41 year old disabled nephew who has type 1 diabetes. He is fine mentally but has been disabled by two strokes and can barely sign his name. The doctor said he shouldn't live alone. He is home a lot but does some odd jobs on occassion. But not very often. Having privacy with a man is an important consideration to me. He is the type that tends to stay in his room and watch T.V.
Thanks for any/all opinions.

Ask him how he feels about it first. He may not want to transformed into a later age teenager who can't communicate with adults, has to listen to his guardian's sex life, and feels like he doesn't belong. Or he's fine with his limitations and is grateful for the kindness.

If he's fine mentally, then he'll have an opinion on this.

[Illusional]

when it comes to family, it's different. i wouldn't mind if you were taking care of your nephew.. but can i ask your age?? or an estimate??

secondly, i would be more concerned about how the future would be if we were in a long termed relationship. would i have to live with him nephew and will my children have to care for him??

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[vashti]

I assume you are older than your nephew, and therefore aren't a kid anymore. It's a big commitment, but I think you'd be hard-pressed to find some man your age who didn't have baggage of his own. On the other hand, I think you should just be careful to be sure you are 100% up for it (or not). It would be really terrible if you offered your nephew a place to live, and then booted him out because you were dating some random guy who didn't like it.

[Tug]

Wouldnt bother me in the least. I say do it and if your B/F cant live with your decision chances are he's not the right person for you.

[Lipp]

Should be quite alright, especially if your nephew is as you say the quiet-and-watch-tv type.