Long Dist. Problem???

[lisa714]

Hi~Right now my bf and I are having a long dist. relationship and he's in a European country right now. A couple of days ago he asked me if he could travel to a near european country with this girl he met. Apparently she asked him if he wants to come with her. He wanted to ask me how I felt abt this but..the phone reception isn't too good so I wasn't able to get the message until after....after...he decided to book the train tickets. Now he's asking me what I think.

I don't know what he's expecting me to say. EVen if I say yes or no...I'm wondering if that will change anything since he did tell me that he wanted to travel to this country, he already bought the tickets, and seems like he's making excuses. I feel a bit betrayed that he didn't stand up for me and tell her that he feels uncomfortable going just by themselves for 3 days and would be okay for him if they invite other people.

On the other hand, I tried to think in his position and how this is a long d. relationship. YEs he is new to the country, he wanted to travel to that place, and he doesn't know many people so many it's good for him to go and fit in.

I don't know anymore. I had a really bad relationship experience so ..I don't know what to do. I must have thought of million different ways to approach this. In some ways I want to end it. But am I being reasonable to his actions or am I just being paranoid???

(sorry for the long post XP )

[Juristhea]

Hi~Right now my bf and I are having a long dist. relationship and he's in a European country right now. A couple of days ago he asked me if he could travel to a near european country with this girl he met. Apparently she asked him if he wants to come with her. He wanted to ask me how I felt abt this but..the phone reception isn't too good so I wasn't able to get the message until after....after...he decided to book the train tickets. Now he's asking me what I think.

I don't know what he's expecting me to say. EVen if I say yes or no...I'm wondering if that will change anything since he did tell me that he wanted to travel to this country, he already bought the tickets, and seems like he's making excuses. I feel a bit betrayed that he didn't stand up for me and tell her that he feels uncomfortable going just by themselves for 3 days and would be okay for him if they invite other people.

On the other hand, I tried to think in his position and how this is a long d. relationship. YEs he is new to the country, he wanted to travel to that place, and he doesn't know many people so many it's good for him to go and fit in.

I don't know anymore. I had a really bad relationship experience so ..I don't know what to do. I must have thought of million different ways to approach this. In some ways I want to end it. But am I being reasonable to his actions or am I just being paranoid???

(sorry for the long post XP )

Long distance relationships rarely work, in my honest opinion and I think that your answer won't matter in his case, because as most poeple would explain when cheating on a long distance relationship, they need the physical and intimate touch of the opposite sex, but since you're not there to provide it for him then he's bound to look for it from someone else. I suggest you just trust him for now and keep things cool and normal between you guys.

I am not saying that your boyfriend will cheat on you but just giving you a heads up on what's bound to happen.