So basically here it is....please give me some advice...im kinda stuck
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 1/2 years. I am still in colllege and he has graduated. He is 25 years old and I am 20. It seems like were just stuck right now.
Basically he has lied and cheated in the past. And still continues to lie about stuff because he kows it will upset me! instead of him just not doing it.
It seems like he has this obsession with his friends and sometimes the bar. He always has to be with his friends. Dont get me wrong...I LOOOVE hanging out with his friends...were with them every weekend and I have a lot of fun! But he makes no time for me...I just feel like he dont care anymore... He has kind of cut down on the bar a bit but its still just not enough sometimes. The only realtionship we have is on the weekends when we go out and occasionally he will stay with me during the week one night. We live 20 minutes apart, however, he has all the time in the world because HE HAS NO JOB. However, he still manages to not have time for me... He has had some ups and downs, but hes 25 and hasnt had a real job since we have been together....Im ready to get an apartment and move things up a notch with us, but he is still lying and doing nothing to get a job and still lived at home with mom and dad.
I do everything for him...I really do love him so much...but I just cant give anymore...its definatly not 50 50
It just drives me crazy. I work everyday and go to class and try to keep my life together and going...but for him...its just a big party...
I think its time for him to get a job...is that awful of me? He always says its not hurting me by him not working, but I dont want to be with someone who is goign to live off of mom and dad forever....isnt it time for him to grow up?
He gets so mad at me when I ask if he has checked into any jobs recently...he graduated a little over a year ago from massage school...and he went to like 5 different colleges before he decided what to do...
We brok up about 6 months ago for a month. I was done with him...then he called with all kinds of promises...no more bar, wants gong to spend his whole life with his friends, he wanted to get an apartment, wanted to just be with me and make me happy. He said how he would do anything....
I didnt want him to not have a life of his own...i just wanted to be more a part of it then what i was...
and now we are back here where i feel worthless to him and lower than his friends and the bar...
is it time to leave for good?
thanks for reading!
Dani