dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!

[AndrewL]

kk well heres the deal, me and my girlfriend of 10 months are deeply in love, i would and have done anything for her. We have been working incredibly hard all year so that we can be together ( we are long distance and know we have to wait another year till we can move in together ) i know its only been 10 months but i love her more than life itself and she feels the same way.

well anyway about 5 months ago we promised eachother we would spend the summer together working to save money so that the next year we could travel at least twice a month to see eachother.

anyway the last couple of weeks we have been trying to decide what to do for the summer.. we had a couple of options, stay at my house and work so it would be cheaper and we could save more money or bring our trailer to a resort to work for the summer but her parents seem to be very controling.. ( she is 18 btw ) and well her parents wont let her come here for the summer and they wont let me in the trailer with her ( there are 2 beds if that gives them any comfort i dont care i just want to spend my time with her ) and well i would have to stay in a tent beside the trailer.. for the whole summer ( we would both stay in trailer when they are not there..) well anyway last night we were on the phone like every night... and she says she has a proposal... that we both stay at our own homes and work this summer instead of being together.... soo that we can save more money to see eachother more the next year... does that seem right? We've been working sooo hard to be together and we still will forever and always is it wrong of me to want to spend my summer with her? what hurts me more than any of it tho is that the person i thought loved me can so easily be ok with not seeing me when we get the chance which is not very often..


what should i do???

[Yggdrasil]

Eh.. you both should grow up?

I mean seriously.. how did you expect this was going to happen? You're head over heels 'in love' with someone who says she feels the same for you. She can say whatever she wants but the facts speak against that: she's having an excuse to keep you away far enough so you can't touch her (yeah her parents and the tent) and chat with you on the phone for another year (another lose promise).

Ding ding... take of the pink coloured glasses and see reality: you're being played.

Just my opinion.

[AndrewL]

noone else? i really need some advice

[jjj]

either what was said above...or...just tell her that you are not happy with tha proposal and tell her why

[Junket]

We need more details.

[reeba]

The parent's obviously don't like you much. If you really want this to relationship to work, you need to honor her parents and also let them get to know you.

I suggest you move to where she is at, find your own place to live, and find a job.

By the way, it appears the trailer belongs to the parents. It is not 'our trailer' to do as we please with.

[lesa]

Have you ever met this 18 year old in person? May I ask how old are you?

[Rollerderby]

If you are older than 18, and you really want this to work, why don't you find your own place close by? She also being 18 could easily move out, but most people in this day and age seem to prefer a few more years of childhood living under the roof than gaining independence. I completely understand why you don't want to go with this plan because long distance is hard.

How long is the commute? How often do you see each other?
Is there anyway you could sit down and talk to her parents and be the respectful bf of their child and explain that you care greatly, and is there anyway you could come to an arrangement that would work for them and you? <--- this might be the most mature way to handle it, that is if she isn't using this excuse as a crutch not to see you. If they understand that your intentions are more serious than just to diddle and ditch, they might be more willing to give her independence.

Do you know her parents at all? If they don't know you I can see why they would be reserved. Do everything possible to get them to like you. Bring a gift, dress really nicely (no jeans no t-shirts no hats, get a hair cut if you have to) and be respectful of them. If you show that you are making a serious effort, they will look better on you than just some guy their daughter is seeing right now.