I need Help

[duker]

I have been getting my hair cut for about two years from the same woman. We always hit it off but when I first met her she was married. She got divorced after a fairly short marriage. I didn't make a move because I didn't want to be the rebound guy. Did that before and it was a major roller coaster.

I see her once a month to get my hair cut. She tells me a little about her dating. She is about 35 and is dating early 20 somethings jocks. Sounds like every one of them is set up for failure.

Recently, I felt a lot of chemistry between us so I decided to ask her out. I was in the store and ran into her and she asked me to call her. I was surprised when she turned me down because I knew I read her signals. I know there was chemistry. She told me she had to watch the NBA playoffs which I take to mean never.

Maybe I waited to long to ask her. I'm older than her so maybe that's it. Maybe she hasn't gotten over her divorce. Got to say I was hurt when she said no. Always hard to get rejected but from someone you have built friendship and feelings over time it's harder. I just don't feel like she sees me only as a friend. I've had that and they always tell you straight out.

I feel like writing her an email just to clear the air. Not sure about the response. I don't feel like getting blindsided again.

Please help.

[Rollerderby]

uh.... I'm just picturing this hairdresser I know kind of like that in my head. So my experience with her is going to bias this answer, but she was a trainwreck.

All she did was bitch about her love life. This asshole that asshole, her ex asshole, this new asshole, some asshole who hit on her at the bar. None of them were perfect. She was hot for a milf, but she was destined to be miserable because of the baggage she carted around with her. Women who only see their own perfection, and in turn see everyone else as less than perfect. Everyone's wrong, she's so great, but what's wrong with her luck?

She isn't giving anything time. Not even you. Don't pursue her. That no is a dead end no.