Sex Slump

[nsantoro]

Hello everyone,
My fiance and I have been dating for over a year and a half. When we first started dating, we would have sex all the time. Lately, he has been a little bit difficult to have sex but when the moment is right, he just doesn't want to. Hes 24 and does suffer from occasional ED, but it has been less frequent in the last few months but I was wondering if him telling me that "he's not in the mood" is a hormone thing, or if it's me doing something. We do spend a lot of time together and Im wondering if he could possibly just feel it is not a necessity. I may be overacting but I am curious.

p.s. i know this is probably way off base but I read that if hes not in the mood for sex then theres a problem

[Lite]

Could be a number of things. Work stress, feeling cramped in the relationship, lack of sleep, if he's having ED issues those are usually more mental than physical. Stress can be a big cause of it.

[Il Cattivo]

I would say that if you are bothered by his lacking sex drive there is a problem. Anytime one partner is not satisfied, I believe it should be dealt with. ED is not uncommon, but that doesn't mean that you should just accept it and live with it. There are a few options, and maybe some steps you should take. If you are at all unsatisfied, you should certainly not shy away from this issue, unless you are prepared to remain unsatisfied for the rest of your life.
First, I would talk extensively with him. Let him know that you are noticing he's not as sexual. Try not to put him on the defensive, instead of criticizing his deficiencies, start by asking him if there's anything you can do to get him more aroused. If you've already talked about ED before, and it's a problem, let him know that you're willing to stick with him through anything, but that he has to be open to looking for a solution.
If your fiancee is uncooperative, or refuses to acknowledge any problem, or your want for more physical intimacy, then you may try therapy.
If this is important to you, let him know that. Don't tell yourself it's just a spell, because, what if it isn't?

[Illusional]

double thread....

closed.

raverboy