my newest mess,am I being paranoid for nothing????PLEASE help!

[lightning88]

I wasnt trying to hurt her,I knew she wouldnt think it was ok if I did it tho,and I wanted her to throw a fit like i did,so she would know how i feel. and thats exactly what happened.

I dont know yet if it helped anything tho. because shes with them without me again right now..................

but she isnt staying there so idk,i cant really do anything,i dont want to give her an ultimatum and I dont want to lose her,Im hoping she changes and realizes things on her own. honestly I questioned weather she loved me back till I saw her flip when she thought I was going with an ex.

[misombra]

dump her. don't be a doormat. she wants that guy to pork her (again) and it's obvious.

[Rollerderby]

An ex is just an ex unless you still want to bang them. She is naive to think she can have her cake and eat it too. Maybe she really liked this guy at one point, but he never seemed interested in dating her, and she didn't get the clue that she was just ass to him. So now you get the short end of the stick because you actually respect her. It's one thing to "need space" I "needed space" when I was that age too. Yeah sometimes you want a girls night, but these days there are few people I wouldn't bring a guy I was serious around unless I had a good reason not to.

[Doc Durian]

dump her. don't be a doormat. she wants that guy to pork her (again) and it's obvious.

...and in his new fancy car

[lightning88]

...and in his new fancy car

i will litterrally murder him if they did anything in my car and she knows that.

maybe im to nice but i love her and wanted her to be safe thats why i offered the car.

I dont think she wants sex with him,i highly doubt it,she actually told her friend i was the best shes ever had and that jon (the guy i hate) couldnt get her off,lol

my concern is that he will get her to high and she wont stop it,i doo trust her not him. which she is putting herself in that position so its her fault and i will blame her and leave if anything happens,im trying to trust her tho. i need to. i just hope nothing ever happens with him.

misombra,I cant just leave her,I very much love her,I cant just leave when she hasnt done anything wrong,I would hold that against myself and hurt the rest of my life over that. ive never met anyone i love like her. the only way i will leave is if she cheats and i have told her that.

[Yggdrasil]

Well, you could make one big point. If she wants to spend the night over at his place, she can do that with her own transportation. It's your car after all isn't it?

Maybe the only reason she's still with you is because of your car?

Grow some backbone there buddy instead of having her walk allover you. How can she ever respect you if you are letting her get away with this? Turn it around, if you would do what she does, how respectfull would that be towards her? Exactly... Now start thinking what she's doing to you and how she's treating you. Is that how you treat someone you respect and love?

You KNOW the answer.

[zombie_loo89]

Someone once told me that if your partner is going to cheat on you then they will, there's nothing you can do to stop it. You can sit there and worry about it but it wont change it.

My advice would be to give her an ultimatum. She can continue hurting you and herself or she can lose you.

She's not being very smart. If getting high is more important to her then being with you that's a serious issue.

[lightning88]

it doesnt matter now,her friends told me shes been cheating on me,and i confronted her,shes over at his house right now and text me a break up from his phone,i went over there after she did that and she was sitting in his lap. you were all right,im done i brought her shit to her parents house and told her not to speak to me again. im sick of being used and cheated on idk what i did to deserve this : (

[zombie_loo89]

it doesnt matter now,her friends told me shes been cheating on me,and i confronted her,shes over at his house right now and text me a break up from his phone,i went over there after she did that and she was sitting in his lap. you were all right,im done i brought her shit to her parents house and told her not to speak to me again. im sick of being used and cheated on idk what i did to deserve this : (

I'm so sorry. You deserve wayyy better then that. That's a horrible way to break up.

[Doc Durian]

He's got a point. Take her for a test drive and see how she handles first. You don't walk onto a lot and buy whatever you've been oogling in the car reviews.

You need to get your hands on it's curve and see if it responds to you appropriately.

Sorry for your bad luck, mate.

Glad you've got an outcome though. Means you can move on.

[Yggdrasil]

it doesnt matter now,her friends told me shes been cheating on me,and i confronted her,shes over at his house right now and text me a break up from his phone,i went over there after she did that and she was sitting in his lap. you were all right,im done i brought her shit to her parents house and told her not to speak to me again. im sick of being used and cheated on idk what i did to deserve this : (

Try to look at it from the positive side: you won't be spending a great deal of your life with a cheating partner.

Sure, it's hard, I understand that. But there are some lessons you can learn here:

1. Always trust your gut feelings, if something doesn't feel right, it usualy isn't right;
2. Some people are users, learn how to make the difference between users and those who genuinely care;
3. A crappy part of your life came to an end and you are allowed to move on beyond this point;
4. This is a great oppurtunity to work on yourself as a person and to avoid running into the same kind of relation again.

When it comes to her: pretty immature of her to break up via a text message.

And stop beating yourself. You trusted her, she abused that trust. You voiced your concerns, she didn't listen to you and continued her behaviour, thus disrespecting you. The only mistake you made, was not setting a clear boundary. That's hardly a crime.

[zombie_loo89]

She's not worth dwelling over either. :/

[Gigabitch]

what i did to deserve this : (

Well, you made bad choices, man. Don't do it again, or you WILL deserve it. The next time someone waves a big red flag in your face, don't ****ing hand them your car keys and go sulk.

[zombie_loo89]

I bet you she'll show up on your doorstep begging for you back one of these days high out of her mind.

[Yggdrasil]

I bet you she'll show up on your doorstep begging for you back one of these days high out of her mind.

If she does that, tell her politely and calmly to go back where she came from.