so i need some advice...

[dereknaut]

hey im derek and ive been dating this girl for about a year now(been friends for 3) i really love her with all my heart and i cant see myself without her. we already have so many plans for our future(eg.moving in together,going to the same college, marrige.),,, well before i state my question i have to tell you about my ex g.f.. me and her dated about 3 years ago for almost 2 years. our relationship was really messed up. there was no trust from the begining (she had a b.f and on our second date we had sex.. afterwards she confessed about being in a relationship) our relationship was full of fighting(not physicly xD) and alot of temperary break ups// idk this chick is crazy.. on a few occasions she pretended to be pregnant because i was going to break it off. dont get me wrong i loved that girl with all my heart. idk ok well back to now. me and my g,f broke up about a month ago but were still seeing eachother. a couple of days ago she went to germany for 3 weeks for a class trip. the other night i had a dream about my ex and it really got me thinking about how much i loved her and how much i miss her. i havnt seen or talked to my ex in about a year and a half but i know shes still around. i really want to get together with her and catch up(i dont think its a good idea because i have a feeling that sumthing will happen,, or i will open up and tell her i think i still love her and get shot down).. i really want to see her again.. but i dont want to mess up the relationship i already have.. so i guess my question is.. what should i do? should i blow off these feelings im having for my ex or should i pursue them and get some closure? is it wrong to be having these feelings? oh and sorry this was so long/

[Ashbee]

well really you shouldnt be making all these plans with you girlfriend and telling her you love her when your still thinking about getting back with your ex, you cant be inlove with your current girlfriend? i mean you can love someone but not be INlove with them if you see what i mean? You ex sounds abit screwed up...pretending shes pregnant? its just attention seeking and really i wouldnt walk into that mess again. You might just always have feelings for her but they should be egnored. Iv stil got feelings for my ex but deep down i know we shouldnt be together and we wouldnt work.
Its really up to you,but it sounds like your ex is crazy and as you said there is no trust... no relationship can work with no trust.
your not wrong to have these feelings,but its how you deal with them which defines right or wrong.

[alovehangoverr]

Uhhh.. break up with your current girlfriend. Having these thoughts and wanting to meet up with an ex means that she deserves more than you.

As for the ex.. are you.. insane? You fought all the time, she cheated on her boyfriend with you, and she made up being pregnant to keep you around.

Sounds like a real winner of a situation.

Don't be dumb.