I do see what you are saying, however, there is some debate as to whether shyness is indeed a psychopathology. I have looked into this as I am training to be a psychiatrist. Obviously shyness exists on a continuum, but I am not sure that when shyness inhibits one from performing what society deems as very normal social activities, and causes an individual significant distress- I am not convinced it is nota mental illness. In addition, there is certain biological evidence to suggest this.
And it is not entirely clear that if shyness is just a personality trait (inherent to the person, or a 'learned behaviour')- that it should not be seen as a personality disorder.
That what makes this so hard. That, in a certain way, us shy people could be battling against our biology- and we can never win against our biology.
Any thoughts on this is very much welcome.....
i wonder why do people start the exact same thread in multiple forums??
raverboy
...this is just my perspective on the situation...
i wonder why do people start the exact same thread in multiple forums??
raverboy
...this is just my perspective on the situation...
Seek cognitive therapy.
it's cool... this is the first time that i deiced to ask before closing a thread, but i seen that you already had numerous replies to both threads, so i decided to ask.
raverboy
...this is just my perspective on the situation...
it's cool. i left it open because of the numerous replies... just nominate me for coolest moderator when you visit the general discussion haha.
raverboy
...this is just my perspective on the situation...
drinking beer works for me, however drinking more beer works wonders for me. BUT i'll let you decide on that one.
raverboy
...this is just my perspective on the situation...
Whatever, I fixed the multiple thread problems.
Go drink your beer.
hahaha! I tried that too (I do feel a little guilty drinking but)....Even though it gives me more courage and I will approach the girls, I make a complete fool of myself saying silly, inappropriate things. And, above all, even though I am intoxicated, it is clear that my social skills are greatly lacking......One girl once said "You would have a lot of potential if you learnt some social skills'
In what way does it work for you...? Does it help with the initial approach, or the subsequent conversations, possibly intimate connection?