Need a Bit of Help

[Keira]

Ok, so I have been dating this guy for almost 3 years now (October 16 will be 3 years to be exact). And for the past year now, things have changed. My boyfriend doesn't act like he is all crazy about me anymore like he was for the first year of our relationship. Now he rather acts like he doesn't want to be with me anymore. When I try to talk to him about things, he doesn't want to cooperate. I tell him that it will make things easier for me to understand if he will just talk to me, but it never works. He has had a pretty bad history with me.. I can't trust him hardly because of a previous act. He was messing around with another girl behind my back. But I still stuck with him because I really do have a lot of love and deep feelings for him. I just don't think he feels the same. I really am starting to think he doesn't care for me anymore. We are pretty comfortable with each other, except for him when it comes to talking about our relationship. Otherwise, I always tell him how I feel and I never get the same in return from him. He expects me to be able to read his mind I guess... what really made me come here to seek for help is that I was browsing the internet this morning and saw something in the search url that shocked me. I clicked to find out what it was and it is a kit (a wiccan kit) to find your soul mate... this makes me think that he is wanting someone else. I haven't got to talk to him about it yet, but I plan to. Basically to make things a little shorter, our whole relationship has went downhill, and now this happens... and it was done while I was sleeping, so it seems he didn't want me to see. I am pretty frustrated and hurt at the same time, but I don't know what to do. Like I said, there has been plenty of other history of bad things he has done in our relationship. i'm not sure if I can take much more, I'm not sure if I should stay with him or not. Advice?

[IndiReloaded]

Cool. Try the wiccan kit. Post what happens.

[Doc Durian]

A wiccan ritual kit?

Is he, no offense, maybe thinking about batting for the other side?

Or is he just one of those RPG type fellows.

[Keira]

None taken, and he does like RPGs, but I'm not really sure what's going on with him on that. He doesn't talk to me about anything, so I don't really know. He's been reading about a lot of religions here lately, been studying the Bible, downloading PDFs on just about EVERYTHING... but the Wicca stuff has been going on with him for a while.. He bought books on it, wants to learn spells etc. Im not really sure whats going on honestly.

[IndiReloaded]

He could have just been curious. I've clicked on all sorts of odd things on the web, just to see what's out there. I'd only be concerned if you actually found the kit, or a receipt.

This seems to be one of those 'making more out of it than it probably is' questions.

[Doc Durian]

Sounds like he's in an identity/spirituality crises. Something is missing and he's looking for it. Possibly, empowerment.

[Keira]

Well, the reason I am concerned is because he's never looked at those types of things before... like about finding another person or whatnot. I am going to see if I can talk to him about it though and see what's going on. I can never get him to be honest with me though, so it's pretty tough talking to him.
EDIT: Doc Durian: I don't even have the slightest clue what an identity/spirituality crisis is lol. He likes dragons, aliens etc. And he wants to conjure/contact and all, but I'm not sure why he would be looking at a soul mate kit for that

[Doc Durian]

You should do some RPG's with him. Let him make you his Sheba or whatever those guys call their RPG queens.

[Keira]

Lol, I actually do play with him on those, I used to didn't care for them, but once I played them they are alright but I don't get into it like that. Kinda freaky to me

[Doc Durian]

Incorporate some mythical kinky costumes, a night in, eating the brains of your slain (pasta in the dark), and pretty soon, you might have him waxing lyrical and conquering your map of Tasmania all night long.

[Keira]

LOL