Unable to have sex first time

[TroyTompson]

So yesterday me and my girl were down the coast in a resort for the weekend.. We are both not virgins and we got o the point where she wanted to take the next step and have sex.. The problem was she was not wet enough at all, I tried everything but we did not have any lube.. She felt so horrible thinking she had spoilt the first time or I was going to leave her.. I assured her that she means so much to me and that we will be more prepared next time.. We are spending the day together one day this week, I was going to cook her lunch and make it all romantic and we could try again, does thus sound like a good idea, she just likes things to be specialbut I don't want to go over the top, any suggestions? We both are 22

[vashti]

More foreplay will probably make additional lubricant unnecessary.

Give her an orgasm before you try to have sex. It will loosen up her vaginal muscles and provide additional lubricant.

[TroyTompson]

^ We spent 3 hours on forplay!

The problem is i think it is she was nervous, i had this girl once before who was so nervous and self concious she could not get wet becasue she was just not in the mood, whereas i have some girls they are soaking before we even start! I did not peform oral sex on her because she wanted this just to be special sex, and we both find oral during potential love making, not what we want, plus she is not going to be able to have an orgasm if she is nervous!

[vashti]

How long have you been dating her? Because it seems like if she is comfortable with you, she shouldn't be too nervous, especially if she isn't a virgin. Maybe you are rushing things?

And I STILL think you need to give her an orgasm first. Many people consider oral sex a part of foreplay.

[Junket]

The more you play it up, the more anxious she'll get.

But dude, oral is key. Saliva makes a pretty damn good lubricant.

Sounds like she's putting too much pressure on this next step.

Tell her to chill the f*ck out and spread her legs.

[TroyTompson]

The problem is, and i am not getting a big head, but she is really really into me, i will try oral tomorrow and see how it goes, but she was so so horny, but honestly there is no way in hell i could get my penis in her, it was moist but only inside, i played with her clit for a while and everything, we been together 2 months, but she thing is she made the move and said she wanted to make this step i did not even make a move at all, she told me she wanted too. I am assuming she was nervous because she is self concious about her body, and it is the first time we have been sexually intimate, but she also said she never had this problem before? I personally think she is thinking too much about it and we just need to have sex!

Also on another note, i have not had much experience with oral sex on girls, my two previous girlfriends hated oral sex (said they thought it was gross) so i never did, and to be quite honest i know i need to pay attention to her clit and everything, but i also want to seem like i know what i am doing! Any quick tips, because somtimes i find it hard to find the clit

[coyoteinatree]

In my experience it's very common for sex to not go smoothly in the beginning, don't worry about it too much. Going down on chicks is easy (although I had one girl who was just totally not that into it, but she had never had an orgasm in her whole life either), lick their clits and finger them at the same time. Change your rhythm now and then while you're doing it. Remember you can suck on a clit too.

In regards to getting it in her, that can be a total bitch. Some girls can be totally wet but still just really tight on the outside. A good tip, I think, is to spit on your fingers and put them in her IMMEDIATELY before you try use your johnson. Or you could go the store and get some lube for a few bucks, right?

And....I just now noticed that this thread is more than a month old, so I guess I'm wasting my time.

[Mr.Meat]

If there is a lubrication issue and you don't want to go down on her , can't find any lube, or don't know how to and she wants to **** you urgently ..just grab her ankles, spread her legs, talk dirty ,and spit on her hole a few times before thrusting your meatsword inside and detonating her orgasmic sex bomb..you can also have her slobber all over your cock and balls before penetration. If you don't engage in oral because you can't find the clit you may be functionally retarded.

[CAM]

If there is a lubrication issue and you don't want to go down on her , can't find any lube, or don't know how to and she wants to **** you urgently ..just grab her ankles, spread her legs, talk dirty ,and spit on her hole a few times before thrusting your meatsword inside and detonating her orgasmic sex bomb..you can also have her slobber all over your cock and balls before penetration. If you don't engage in oral because you can't find the clit you may be functionally retarded.

You've been watching too much porn..."spit on her hole..." A real turn on...spitting on each other's organs.

[Mr.Meat]

You've been watching too much porn..."spit on her hole..." A real turn on...spitting on each other's organs.

I actually dislike porn.
It's not reality or believeable.
Since my natural mind is pornographic enough I avoid viewing porn in lieu of using my own imagination and creativity.
I understand your narrowminded perception concerning my post but please don't judge my sexual behavior.
If you are anal retentive or Canadian I can accept that as a reason.
I suppose I am more of a freak when it comes to being a ultra masculine alpha male.
Saliva is an excellent lubricant and you should not be so uptight about how its applied.
Some are very stimulated by the sounds of agressive mutual oral sex and find saliva covered genitalia offers perfect penetrative lubricity.
Meaning preparing for penetration is all important.
Although I don't care for porn I did enjoy reading "MY SECRET LIFE" a victorian underground erotic tale.
It can be read online.

[CAM]

I actually dislike porn.
It's not reality or believeable.
Since my natural mind is pornographic enough I avoid viewing porn in lieu of using my own imagination and creativity.
I understand your narrowminded perception concerning my post but please don't judge my sexual behavior.
If you are anal retentive or Canadian I can accept that as a reason.
I suppose I am more of a freak when it comes to being a ultra masculine alpha male.
Saliva is an excellent lubricant and you should not be so uptight about how its applied.
Some are very stimulated by the sounds of agressive mutual oral sex and find saliva covered genitalia offers perfect penetrative lubricity.
Meaning preparing for penetration is all important.
Although I don't care for porn I did enjoy reading "MY SECRET LIFE" a victorian underground erotic tale.
It can be read online.

While it does have some antibiotic qualities, your mouth juice is also laden with some of the worst forms of bacteria.

Plus, it is a bit gauche to spit on someone's genitals.

[Mr.Meat]

While it does have some antibiotic qualities, your mouth juice is also laden with some of the worst forms of bacteria.

Plus, it is a bit gauche to spit on someone's genitals.

If you have one describe your sex life please.

[CAM]

When I choose to date...the sex life is pretty damned good. We use condoms and previously unused K-Y jelly. I don't shit, pee, (or spit) on her genitalia. I don't give pearl necklaces or anything else remotely degrading to women. I cum when they say cum. I stop when they say stop. In between, I'm a hopeless romantic in or out of bed and do everything to make their romantic time with me a sensual experience for them in every way.

I always remember that whomever I'm with will be treated with the utmost respect because, whether she is aware of it or not, she is a human being worthy of respect, a daughter of parents who probably love her very much and would be unhappy if she were ever treated poorly.

Not your style, I'm guessing, but this philosophy of dating and romance seems to have worked for me with some noted exceptions (for example, the stalker chick).

[Mr.Meat]

But you use mouthwash and brush your teeth before sex , right? And you engage in mutual oral sex where saliva is involved, right? No spitting is cool but saliva is a widely accepted form of natural lubrication. Nobody dies from having saliva on their erectile tissues. Respect , romance ,and trust are valued by me also but I also enjoy somebody's daughter calling me daddy.

[sh0rty]

But you use mouthwash and brush your teeth before sex , right? And you engage in mutual oral sex where saliva is involved, right? No spitting is cool but saliva is a widely accepted form of natural lubrication. Nobody dies from having saliva on their erectile tissues. Respect , romance ,and trust are valued by me also but I also enjoy somebody's daughter calling me daddy.

I've gotta be on CAM's side for this one. A girl calling me daddy isn't why I'm having sex, nor do I spit on her genitals to get things moving. Women are emotional creatures, as much as some of them like to deny it and play out a 'pornstar' role, so I tend to stay away from hawking on her and I try keeping it pretty romantic.