Not sure what to do..

[Benmillster]

Hey, Need some help with a few things. Having abit of a crisis of confidence...I broke up with my first major girlfriend about 3 years ago,we were together for 3 years. and it seems since then ive just jumped from girl to girl, never really sticking with ne of them for very long. I guess none off them ever seem to feel right. It seems like im with them for a week and then i lose interest, however terrible that sounds...Not sure what to do, losing confidence in my ability to have a relationship and be settled, because thats something I definatly really want...I dunno, nebody got ne ideas about what I need to change my mentality or have ne advice about my situation?

[Bumble_bee]

are you over the ex?

[Benmillster]

are you over the ex?

Thats something I've thought about...I definatly still have feelings for her but our break up was so messy that I don't think i could ever really go back there. At the beginning I pretty much stayed clear of her all together as a way of getting over her...I guess were both in different places in our lives now.

[Bumble_bee]

well that's most likely part of the reason your not putting yourself (emotions) on the line for anyone, mentally your over her, but emotionally your not ready to go through the mill again....It would be better if you said how this affects you in terms of what you're thinking/feeling when you're with these girls.

your might be scared to invest any time and emotion on these women because you are afraid of getting messed around, but how will you ever know if you can have a long term relationship with one of them if your not giving it a proper shot?

maybe you need to be alone for a while to work out what you want, and also to miss the chase, then when you do get back into the dating game it will be more of a challenge rather then a chore.

make finding that long term partner and adventure, not a drag.

[Yggdrasil]

I suggest to first spend some time single and work on yourself and your fears. Jumping from girl to girl is only going to dent your confidence and self esteem more. I mean: look at it: you're already starting to think you never will have a decent relation and thinking about being a failure.

Remember: 90% of what you think, you are.

So how about, instead of trying to fill the void your ex left with other women, you fill that void with love for yourself, independence, the feeling of self worth and all that great stuff?

Just an idea there buddie.