My girlfriend wants to go to the Galapagos with her ex-flame.

[jonathanaustin]

My girlfriend is planning/hoping to go to the Galapagos Islands with her friend and has been planning on it for a while (a little longer than we've been together from what I understand) and I'm feeling weird and betrayed emotionally to some degree. Her friend lives 1000 miles to the north and they have had a number of flings on location in Austin and up in his neck of the woods. They've traveled to see each other (and hook up) a couple of times.

We started seeing each other about 5 months ago and things have been wonderful - she's all I could ask for and she keeps me very happy. I'm very jealous of her plans and feel more than a little betrayed by the idea of her traveling with her "friend" to such an exotic destination, especially seeing as we've never been anywhere ourselves that interesting. She swears nothing will happen, but I just can't see myself coming to any peace with it.

Am I being crazy or does this sound a little off?

Jonathan

[vashti]

It's definitely off. Tell her you want her to postpone the trip until you have saved up enough money to go.

[Mish]

You should definitely go with her

[Sevrn]

He shouldn’t have to go with her, she should just cancel the trip altogether if she has any serious feelings for him at all.
If she is going to go no matter what then ditch her ass now, although she should never have put you in this position in the first place so since she has bet there is more to come.
Good Luck to you

[soulsurvivor23]

If that's not a major red flag, I don't know what is.

[Yggdrasil]

Let her go. While she's gone, find yourself a new g/f.

I mean.... what the hell... what's her problem?

[Gigabitch]

I can't believe you're even asking this. That's not just "off", that's ****ED UP.

[Doc Durian]

Trust me.

The fact that she's still willing to go on that trip means all is not right in the state of Denmark.

Lay down the law now.

[IndiReloaded]

If it helps, I had a BF who had booked tickets for us to a caribbean island. I was having quiet doubts about our relationship. I could have gone on the holiday and THEN broke up, but I felt it would have been wrong (duh--but you'd be surprised my GFs who say they'd have gone). Anyway, if she does this, you would be within your rights to break off with her.

Male friends don't take off on holiday with their female friends. Not ones who have had flings in the past. Yikes. Especially those with BFs. Something smells very wrong here.

[little pingoin]

For the sake of argument, it seems these two have had the means and sufficient enough opportunity to be together (as an item) if they so choose. Yet she has only "hooked up" with him and chooses to be with you.

A hook up is someone you feel safe having sex with in between boyfriends but aren't really interested in romantically. If she's given you no reason to think she's an unfaithful person, I don't think you really have to worry.

If it bothers you that much, then I second Vashti's advice.

[misombra]

tell her to go and have a nice time and leave her alone.