How do I "opening myself" to her?

[NeedsAdvice]

This maybe kind of a odd question to ask. But I was recently dumped by this girl after going out with her about a few times. And one of the things she told me why she broke up is because I didn't "open myself" to her? Did I miss something because I did talk to her about my family and history and such. Am I suppose to talk to her something specific? I'm a bit confused here.

Thanks.

[Cbrider]

You're reading into this way too much. If you made it through a few dates and talked about family, friends, the usual and she wasn't satisfied, that's not your problem.

With a comment/reason like that, I would say its a red flag for any future dates anyway.

[Yggdrasil]

You take a sharp knife and slash your belly open, so your guts fall out.

By opening up she means: tell me everything about you and your feelings so I can use it to manipulate you and turn you into my personal slave. While you are at it, also let me parasite on your emotions till you are so drained you don't know anymore whom you are and I have full control over you.

Never return to this dysfunctional dodobrain unless you're suicidal.

[lastwish]

Have you ever told her how you feel about her? She probably needs reassurance because she doesn't where she stand. What men understand but fail to apply is that women are more emotional.

[Graham Berkeley]

Have you ever told her how you feel about her? She probably needs reassurance because she doesn't where she stand. What men understand but fail to apply is that women are more emotional.

Women do that all the time too though. You never know where you stand because over night they can decide they like someone else.

[soulsurvivor23]

Yeah.. I recently learned my lesson the hard way... **** all that. A girl can lead you to think she feels a certain way about you, draw you in like a moth to a flame until your spilling all your personal stories and thoughts and inner feelings... and then when she feels quenched with all that intimate knowledge, she can let go of you at the drop of a hat... So **** that bullshit. A few dates and you shouldn't be having to tell her about all your personal shit... She's not worth it.

[Yggdrasil]

Women do that all the time too though. You never know where you stand because over night they can decide they like someone else.

Yep.. women are like roller coasters. Don't try to make sense of them... they don't make sense, bottom line.

In time you learn to shrug of a lot of things.

Another thing you learn is, that the less you need them, the more they want you

*shakes his head*

[little pingoin]

Sigh.

It does not suit anyone to be bitter.

If you really want to know what she meant by the question, ask her. Otherwise, after only a couple of dates, it sounds like she was using a blow off excuse to tell you she's not interested in taking things further with you.

[Kat5]

Maybe she felt like you were putting on a facade and not showing the true you? That you were just behaving how you thought she wanted you to. Although after just a few dates most people still have their guard up a bit...