i think he's in love with me?????

[LoveGoddess240]

ok please tell me what yours thoughts are on this.......thanks much.
been with this great guy for almost 4 mths now and things are going great~!! we started out slow and only saw eachother few times a week. He had been single for 3 years before me (never married, no kids) I had been single for greater than a year (divorced and have children) we are both in between age 27-35 so we knew that going too fast would ruin anything good from previous experiences in our lives. I am growing more and more attached to him obviously. I know I started feeling different about 3 mths into it. We are up to 4 times a week now. He is starting to come around my kids a little more now which is nice. I can't stop thinking about him when he's not with me. I am in love with him but haven't told him yet because I am waiting for him to tell me first. He calls me everynight that we aren't together just to say hi how was your day and goodnight, etc
when i hadn't seen him for few days (we talked on the phone though) and then he had come over and we had supper and watched movie I asked him if he missed me, he said "i thought about you everyday but I didn't actually miss you because I knew I would see you again". I noticed that he doesn't even call me my name anymore, he calls me BABE or BABY.
he has told me that he wanted to take it slow (4 mths ago) and see what happened. I don't know if some guys will fall in love and just not say those 3 words for awhile or what??? I know he likes me, that's obvious to me and his brother and friends. But I know that I love him and want to tell him but i won't until he tells me. AH!!!! I just hope he is in love with me or is falling in love with me at least. I hope I hear those 3 words soon. what do you think guys...he used to never call me his "girlfriend" but last couple mths he has been.

[Junket]

It sounds like you know the answers to your own questions, but you're looking for affirmation, anyway.

Is this correct?

[SignsAndStars]

Lol agreed. Its possible he really just wanted to take it slow lol.

[soulsurvivor23]

Yeah, it's possible that he really does want to take it slow. If he has been single for 3 years maybe he was hurt before or maybe he just wasn't looking... So I think that if you really love him, you'll wait for him. And PLEASE don't jump ship if he doesn't do it within your timeframe (sorry, just obviously venting about my own situation, but it does apply here too)

[taurus]

i say why wait in hope he may tell you ,ask him how he feels ,guys feel the same if we say we love you what the outcome might be ,

[Yggdrasil]

LoveGoddess240,

communication goes both ways.

There is no written or otherwise implied rule that says the male has to make the first move.

Just tell him how you feel, without saying 'to much' and without comming over controlling or pushy, if you get my drift.

He'll tell you his feelings when he's ready to tell you.

Hope that makes sense.

[LoveGoddess240]

ya i think ur right. i think i'm just looking for confirmation lol. thanks

[LoveGoddess240]

ya he was in a relatinship before me where she had 2 kids and he got real attached to them. the girl left him for another guy and then he never saw the kids or her again. it was pretty messy i guess. he said that's why he doesn't want to go fast because i have 2 kids. they all lived with him so he told me that we are going to wait at least a few yrs before taking that step. i can see ur point in not rushing him, he has told me he wants to take his time to make sure i am the one.

[Yggdrasil]

ya he was in a relatinship before me where she had 2 kids and he got real attached to them. the girl left him for another guy and then he never saw the kids or her again. it was pretty messy i guess. he said that's why he doesn't want to go fast because i have 2 kids. they all lived with him so he told me that we are going to wait at least a few yrs before taking that step. i can see ur point in not rushing him, he has told me he wants to take his time to make sure i am the one.

I think he's a very smart person to take it slow and let things grow in a natural way.

Personaly, I believe you should count your blessings, it seems that you may have found someone who is mature enough to take his time and serious enough for a long term commited relation.

Good luck with your relation.

Remember that good communication between the two of you is 90% of success.

[Raze]

You've basically answered your own question, good job!