uhm.. help me with this one guys please

[elz]

after my posting about my problem here about my gf joined a sorority group.,,now these things happens the following week ago..

i didn't text her about 3 days because im so depressed about what she did. before we argue about it, her bestfriend(girl) and i argue about what i said to my girl via sms.. i said to my girl that im not comfortable anymore with you're best friend because knowing she's also joined the group and i thinks she's not a good influence to you anymore. after that her best friend texted me and said that i don't have the rights to judge her because i don't know her that much. i replied via sms and said that "im not judging you, its just im not comfortable anymore with what you and my girl did.(joining the sorority group) and please appreciate the people who appreciate and taking care of you". after that i text my girl that why did you let you're bestfriend read my text messages?. she said that she didn't but i have a feeling that she did.


3 days after(with no communicating with her), she broke up with me and said that even we break up, it doesn't mean that she don't love me anymore infact she said that she love me so muchh.. and she's not closing any door for me..i said that "OK maybe its all we can do about it although it hurts for me a lot"


Now, i have a feeling that i don't want to loose her and i want her back and she said that "please i don't want to talk about it right now" i stay sweet to her,, i do the things what i did before.. sending her messages and telling her that i love her so much.....sometimes i think to give up and let her do her things.. but everytime i said it to her she's making me feel like "please dont leave" or maybe i love you still (although shed did't tell me that now) i have a feeling that she still loves me and i know that she know that i love her so much too. we still communicating to each other though sometimes she's cold to me..but im really confused about it. what should i do? should i set her free. though she said that she loves me.. please any advice will be highly appreciated thanx

[Raze]

What's wrong with joining a sorority? I'm confused as to why you got mad about that. Is there a stigma attached to them that I don't know about. You kinda sounded controlling to me, and from what I've gathered from others, that's a big nono.

I think you need to let this one go because the relationship is very complicated. You guys broke up, but you still love each other so much? That makes no sense. I think you need to move on. I think you just made a mistake, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake when you meet another girl. We all make mistakes. I make mistakes everyday. You just learn from them. Best of luck!

[nathan0726]

I was wondering the same thing as Raze, what's the big deal about the sorority? And one thing I have learned about having girlfriends and being around their bestfriends is you should always get and stay on good terms with said best friends because they have a lot of influence over your girl. They can persuade her to do something however they see fit.

If you have been a jerk or say bad things about the best friend then the best friend will tell your girlfriend awful things about you, saying that she deserves better and such. So I would try to stay on the best friends good side.

Good luck!

[elz]

thanks for the advices.. im not controlling her or something.. im not just want her to get involve in any troubled that her sorority will go through...in my perspective in sorority or frat is not that good. and that's why i get mad of it.