Two Out Of Three Ain't Bad

[Jesse Rheaume]

This is my actual love life situation. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months, but have known her for a year. In the mean time, there's this girl I "used to" love. I've know this girl for 2 years and we still talk.

What happened with this girl was when I met her she had just started a relationship with a guy. We grew pretty close, talked alot and even admitted to each other having feelings, but that being quite a while into her own relationship. She never had the motivation to break up with him, even though admiting loving me back. We know each other pretty well even now, alot of time has passed but we still talk very openly and talk with alot of honesty.

The problem is since, I met my actual girlfriend, a year ago, she was the one to fall in love with me. At that exact moment, I was still in certain love with the other girl. I even warned her she would get hurt, told her I needed time to move on and space. That didn't happen, she couldn't leave me be, was impatient and rushed me into our actual relationship and could'nt accept to be friends even for the time it would take me to be ready. I did say its been 6 months we are going out cuz actually we broke up (I did actually) twice before because of that time and space i needed. Time that btw was to forget and move on from this other chick. As a result of not having had the required time to move on, I tell myself that instead of having had the chance to fall in love with my girlfriend, I've learned to love her. I'm not sure that I do though

Now here I am... my girlfriend to whom I say I love you every day, with whom I sleep with every day. I told her Ive moved on from the other girl and that I don't love her but... the truth is I'm so unsure. I'm not even 100% sure if what I feel for my girlfriend is true love, it pains me because I still think of the other girl and its been so long...

I've tried so hard moving on, I've told the other girl I had too, but we never stopped talking. I just can't forget her.

And I know I don't want to leave my girlfriend, I couldn't. We match way too much and are so comfortable together. It would break her totally, even possibly make her suicide (she is very emotional). I do see myself living forever with my girlfriend. I am very content with our relationship and I think it's better than alot of relationships out there. I'm just troubled by the possibility that we're together a result of me giving in to her need to feel loved. We have so many interests in common.

I could still have feelings of love for the other girl... it bugs me these days because break up between her and her long time boyfriend is now eminent. He's been gone for weeks working out of town and she's been cheating on him with another guy.

So as you see at the same time it's not very attracting to go in a relationship with the other girl, knowing how she is highly open minded and possibly untrustworthy of faithfulness.

Comments and thoughts are very welcome.

[SAVANAH]

Cut all contact with the 'other girl' tell her you need to concentrate on your relationship and you don't have time for her and that you want her to leave you alone, if you feel anything for your current girlfriend you would do it no matter how hard it is and you know that your girlfriend loves you and you know that the 'other girl' does not and is a selfish b**** so kick her to the curb and give yourself the chance to fully let go and fall inlove with your girl, don't feel bad that it hasn't happened it takes longer for some and in your case there were contributing factors.

I don't know why you here when deep down you know what needs to be done.

Put your foot down and make your girl; the one that loves you to death and does NOT want to live without you your priority.

Then again if you feel she is not for you then leave cause it will be best for her if you realize it now sooner than later!

Make your decision and stick with it.

[Raze]

Are we on a gameshow? You're acting as though you're on a gameshow trying to select a door out of 3 that has the cadillac.