I need advice

[jeelee]

My girlfriend's birthday is on August 8. My best friend's birthday is on August 10. The plan is to celebrate both birthday's on August 8 which is a Saturday. My plan for that day is to spend the whole day with my girlfriend for her birthday and then meet up with my other best friends for a couple hours later that night. The problem is my girlfriend is not happy about that. Of course, I also invited her to come along but she is just not feeling it and in to it. Is she telling me not to go to my best friend's birthday too? If she is, is this fair? Our relationship is suffering because of these little things and I feel that even after spending the ENTIRE day with her and wanting to hook up with my best friend for a little bit at night should be more than reasonable enough for both parties to be satisfied completely. Please help.

[lizzy_09]

Couldn't you tell her that you've got your whole life together. As for your friends, you've only met them a few times cause your time is mostly spent with her. Ask her not to suffocate you. You did after all invite her to join you.

[CocoChanel]

My birthday is August 8th too. Celebrate her birthday on that day because that day rocks \

All jokes aside though... you need to decide what's more important. She shouldn't have to share her birthday with your friend. If your friends respected you or relationship they wouldn't mind if you guys did a little something on the actual day of his birthday.

[bathos]

Your friend's birthday isnt on the 8th, it's on the 10th. So this year you'll spend the whole day and night with your girlfriend. And the next time when your friends birthday lands on a saturday you can party with him. I know I'd be pretty upset if my BF wanted to hang with his buddies on my birthday even of he hung out with me for the whole day. She must like you a lot to want to be with you for so long.

[jimmy1200]

Its a toughie alright, but I reckon if you could convince her to go with you just for even one drink at the start of the night to show up for your friends to wish him happy bday, thats not asking too much at all, imo its all about give and take in relationships. That way you are giving her almost full undivided attention for the full day bar that 30 min... Then again on special days for girls, she just wants you and only you!

Or you could bring her out for dinner, and go for a pre dinner drink and accidently go into the bar your friends are at, but dont thing that would go down too well!! lol