New Guy Now What !!

[Sienna]

I just met a great guy. We met online. The usual wink, to e-mail, to meeting, to first date. I am 35, he is 32.

For the first meeting, he came over after work, it was late 12:00 We sat on my porch, drank water, talked, shared pictures of our old cars. (we are both fans of classic cars. I built an old Mustang with my father when I was 13. Great conversation. He left at 3:15 AM, just a hug goodbye. I hate wondering, so I texted him right away to tell him I enjoyed his company. He texted right back, he said we should get together soon.

We made plans to go to breakfast, we met at a diner. Huge great smile, he said I looked cute, complimented my shoes, at breakfast he said he loved my hair.

After breakfast, he said want to take a ride. I didn't even ask him where. Just said yep. We dropped my car off, walked the dog, off we went. He took me to meet his friend who lived 20 min. away and builds race cars. He obviously knew we were coming so I know he told him about me:-) Then we went to an engine shop so I could pick up a business card from a guy he knows who could help me with my old Mustang.

He dropped me off and stayed for an hour, just talking. He left me his box set of the Matrix so I could watch it. He had to go help a buddy install brakes on his car. He apologized for having to go. I told him don't be, Its a good thing that he keeps his promises to friends. It is a rarity these days, and to me another good quality. We hugged goodbye, and he picked me up. ( I am tiny) He hugged my puppy ;-) both dog lovers. We e-mailed the next day, both had a great time, both want to hang out again.

My questions are:

I think he's into me ?
How do I subtly show him I am attracted? (When I get nervous I can seem aloof)
I watched the first of the movies, so that I could talk to him about it, he is a huge fan. Should I wait and tell him we should watch the next one together?
Our dates didn't really lend themselves to a kiss, or should I have put better signals out, or is the pace ok?
How do I make our third date more hands on, or is that up to him? I felt like he tried to touch my leg in the truck while we were driving, he handed me something and then lingered by my knee.
I guess I seem a bit nutty lol, but its been such a long time since I met a guy who gave me those butterflies. I want to take more of a risk to let him know I am into him, without coming on too strong. Though I will admit I am usually guilty of sending out uninterested vibes, when I feel quite the opposite. What are some compliments guys like to hear. If I described him to my friends I would say he is sweet, thoughtful, endearing, funny, smart, and just a genuinely hot guy's guy ! I just lack that girly flirty gene some girls have. ADVICE ?? Thank you in advance.

[MrNiceGuy]

My questions are:

I think he's into me ?
How do I subtly show him I am attracted? (When I get nervous I can seem aloof)
I watched the first of the movies, so that I could talk to him about it, he is a huge fan. Should I wait and tell him we should watch the next one together?
Our dates didn't really lend themselves to a kiss, or should I have put better signals out, or is the pace ok?
How do I make our third date more hands on, or is that up to him? I felt like he tried to touch my leg in the truck while we were driving, he handed me something and then lingered by my knee.
I guess I seem a bit nutty lol, but its been such a long time since I met a guy who gave me those butterflies. I want to take more of a risk to let him know I am into him, without coming on too strong. Though I will admit I am usually guilty of sending out uninterested vibes, when I feel quite the opposite. What are some compliments guys like to hear. If I described him to my friends I would say he is sweet, thoughtful, endearing, funny, smart, and just a genuinely hot guy's guy ! I just lack that girly flirty gene some girls have. ADVICE ?? Thank you in advance.

What is wrong with watching movies and getting to know him?

Compliments? Honest ones.You can think of those me thinks.

Sounds like like him so why not go seem more of him?

[Cbrider]

Yes he's into you, but he's either shy or reserved.

It doesn't hurt to take some initiative yourself. If he puts his hand out like he wants to touch your leg and hovers, he's waiting to see what you're going to do or how you might react. Grab his hand gently, that way he doesn't feel like his pushing himself on you. I think he's just so much of a gentlemen and its holding him back a bit.

You are far from coming on too strong, your over thinking this.

[CAM]

Yes, he's into you. Very into you.

How do you show him you like him? Talk to him, spend time with him, just stick with hugs, kisses and holding hands. You've got a good one so don't **** up with sex any time soon.

[Sienna]

We hung out tonight, talked, he brought me 2 car magazines to look at :-) We watched a movie, layed almost touching on my floor. Some contact, no kiss. I guess I really like him so I am worried that I am being too distant. I guess if / when he is ready he will kiss me. Just hoping I am not sending out the wrong vibes, or he is not ready. Time will tell. Its been so long since I started a new relationship. My puppy adores him, ....I am really starting to adore him.

Slow and steady?

[Sienna]

He called the next day, left a message that he enjoyed our time, and wants to hang out again ! So we are having breakfast on Thursday. I was hoping for an evening date, but he works late and this is the time we have. On the phone tonight, he mentioned that I would have no time to hang out once Sept. started. ( I teach school) I guess this means he is thinking past the summer. I guess that is a good sign :-) ! I think I would just feel better if he tried to kiss me, so I knew he was thinking more than friendship.

I want so badly to talk to my friends and tell them I met this great guy, but am still in that what if he's not into me mode. I just need a sign from him that he's physically attracted. Any flirting tips out there? At this point I want to learn to take more emotional risks, but am shy. I am thinking of ways to add more physical contact, to show him its ok for him to touch me. Any suggestions? I am so wanting to get closer to him.

[Mish]

No kiss means he's not ready to "seal the deal" yet. It means you are still somewhere in the friends territory that can be escaped quickly without any major damage if necessary. It's not necessarily anything to do with you. Some people were hurt in the past and are cautious, some date multiple people at once and need time to make a choice, other people like to take things slow and get to know the person before jumping head over heels (there's nothing wrong with that). Your best bet is to keep expectations low and just go with the flow to see where it takes you (since you are interested in him).

[Raze]

You might have to initiate the first kiss. Next time you see him, initiate a kiss.