How do I get back at my ex?

[estranged12]

I was going out with this girl in high school.. turns out she was a horrible little cunt... She broke up with me right in the middle of my final 12th exams effectively ruining them.. not to mention my college credits... and she hooked up with someone I thought was a good friend on what was supposed to be the best trip of my schooling years.. graduation.. i consider this one of the worst moments of my life.. she later told me that she even cheated on me while we were going out... I've spent an infinite amount of time arguing with her but she doesn't seem like she feels the least bit guilty.. and in my friends circle I sometimes have no choice but to hang around with her which is basically mind****.. even though I now have another girlfriend, I still hate this bitch and want either some kind of compensation from her.. or retribution... what do i do? please help

[Bigboy77]

uuugh frustrating isn't it!!
I'm in a similar position where my ex slept with another guy and hooked up with a bunch of guys right after our break up.. now she wants me back and doesnt feel like she did anything wrong at all.
No point trying to argue with them, they are selfish and don't understand.

[Tug]

Im speaking from experience, whenever you try to get revenge the majority of the time it never works and if you believe in karma it usually comes back to bite you in the azz. The best thing for you to do is to just let it go and spend some quality time with your new GF

[bloodtippedrose]

my first bf did the same thing. Cheated on me with what I thought was a friend. Made friends take sides. I hated him and her so much for it. not to mention she cheated on her bf and the guy she was cheating on her bf with! She was a whore. As far as Im concerned they deserve to be together. I wanted revenge too. But I got over it. Instead I cut off connections with them, moved, stopped talking with the friends that 'chose sides' and lived my own life. I dont remember who started it but a short email was sent between us a few years afterward and I was nice to him. Found out he is living in an apartment with her and doesnt have a job while she works 3. Everything in their apt breaks and his car broke and his brother hates him and he only hangs out with people that smoke weed and drink all the time. All the other friends 'grew out' of him.
Karma has been at work for sure. Im dating a guy now that i never fight with and he has an incredible high paying job, love my apartment ect.
Thing is you dont have to do anything, their cheating ways will probably end a marriage for them or something else horrid. If you do you will probably regret being so immature later.

[thomas12]

Trying to make your ex jealous is one of the worst things you can do if you want to get back with your ex, since all it is going to do is show him that you have moved on and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best thing in your life, and that nobody compares to what he had to offer you. By boosting his confidence without seeming needy, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences. Also, avoid getting upset if he is seeing someone else, because you won't be able to stop it no matter what you try.

[Cbrider]

People with that kind of mentality and lack of integrity will gravitate towards and attract people with similar qualities.

You don't need to do anything but focus on your new girl friend. Harboring this hate is pointless and will only hurt your current relationship.

Been there done that, the sooner you let it go, the sooner you will be happy and indifferent about it. When you reach that point you will piss her off to a degree nothing else can. Be happy.

[Yggdrasil]

I agree with Cbrider. The best 'revenge' you can have, is simply to move on with your life and not fall for the same kind of stooopid idioooots again. Make something great of your life instead of wasting energy on seeking revenge. Life has it's own ways to deal with that kind of people and there is something to the saying: what goes around comes around.

[Kotten]

Slash her tires or try to lace her food with laxative.

[tasha1133]

getting back at her isn't really going to make you happy, and she'll probably revel in the idea that your still hung up on her because she probably gets a kick out of knowing she hurt you. Don't give her that power over you. If she is as horrible and unrepentant for what she did to you as what you say she is, the best way to get back at her, is to move on, show her she isn't worth the time or effort and just live your life knowing your a lot better of without her. It will be a lot more painful than any attempt you try, direct rejection by feeling she doesn't matter is bound to turn her inside out.

Besides you need to heal. dwelling on hurting her wont do that. I say move on, and all the best of luck to you!

[Mish]

Put a curse on her for her boobs to fall off

[SandraRK]

Your spirit of vengeance is only hurting you, you left your spirit there in every painful memory till all you have left of you is a hollow shell walking around. You need to go back and remember every painful memory and LET GO. Only then you will be given what you don't have.. and that's the truth. You don't know what really happened and you're angry. I'd suggest you not date this girl you are with right now. It will not heal you, you need to work on yourself and your memories and figure out who you are. Best wishes to you. With love, Sandra

Go to youtube and watch Why People Don't Heal by Caroline Myss

[David P.]

Have to agree with others here. The best revenge you can possible get is moving on with your life.

Think about it, you going out of your way to get back at her will just make her think she's so great and special because you're still spending so much time and effort on her.

On the other hand, if you move on with your life and completely ignore her, it's by far the best solution for you, and she probably won't know what happened, because she's used to getting all your attention, even after she broke up.

You can never control what others do, only your own reaction to it Good luck

[angel87]

I think you should just leave it. I don't think that making her jealous or trying to get pay back is going to help the situation.

It's really not worth you time or effort. Why do u want to waste so much energy on a lost cause. Just leave her to her own devises and move on.