Confused?!

[mrace]

Hello,

I'm 22 years old and also my gf. We have been dating for 4 and a half years. The strange part in our relationship is that we have been in not really great relationship the second and the third year, but the last 2 years are more than great. We do not have sex. When ever we try she is just afraid that it will hurt her very much and backs off. That makes me nervous because we're trying to do that for like 7 or 8 months. Im not from USA and in my country the things about sex are really different. The girls are more afraid and most of them loose their virginity from 20+... How can i make her not to think about the pain and just feel relaxed. She wants to have sex with me but she is afraid.

Thanks

[PsychoPink]

Honestly, it sounds like she just isn't ready. Give her time.

If she insists that she is ready then just go slow, lots of foreplay, etc. It is going to hurt the first time, but it isn't unbearable. Just work her into it.

Make sure it's something she really wants, not something she's doing to do just to keep you around.

[mrace]

First of all thanks for the replay. We have lots of foreplay, and we have talked about it that it will hurt her and everything - everything is fine when we'll start, and when the time comes that we actually do it - she backs off. I'm giving her time as i said im not into rushing her but its odd. Anyway thnx again

[_bebedreams]

If it's love then surely it's strong enough to get it over with.

[girl68]

Have you even said anything even close to:

"baby, I'm not going to hurt you"
"we're going to take is as slow as you want"
"I won't go fast"
"Tell me if it hurts"
"You're in charge"
"Don't worry, we'll go slow"