i need help...

[Ekd915]

OK girls... last September I met this guy... well I knew him before cause we have all the same friends but this was the 1st time we actually hung out... (lets call him K, age 24) We became really good friends and we hung out almost everyday... then our friendship started to lean more towards... well... friends with benefits... then in January I started to hang out with him and his brother (lets call him B, age 25)... "K" and I still fooled around until about April but I started to like "B" and so I just told "K" I just wanted to be friends... I see these boys every day almost and each time I see them I seam to fall more and more for "B"...

I'm not 100% sure if "B" knows I've slept with "K" but from what one of my friends told me, everyone who was at the bar the night I met "K" knows that he left with me and they know how we both are... I don't have any feelings for "K" except just a very good friendship and I haven't done anything with him since I started to like "B"... I just kind of feel like I have no chance with "B" considering the fact that I slept with his brother... I've never felt this way about any guy before... but I kind of feel like it's just going to end in me getting my heart broken... again... should I just give up?

[lilac]

I don't understand the concept of friends with benefits, it kinda wierd to sleep with someone just for the sake of it. Anyhow, I can tell you right now that guys talks a lot to each other, more than we know. They usually don't missed out on who they sleeps with and who they like and who they want to go out with. If you really like B, then I think you shouldn't lie about you used to sleep with his brother. Lying relationship doesn't last forever especially when they are brothers. If B like you, I'm sure he'll find away to ask you out. If he really really like you, he'll learn how to over look your past relationship with his brother. I mean, its not the first time that stuff like this happens.. It is all up to how much you are willing to put yourself out there. You either get hurt from it or you'll be happy....

[tasha1133]

first of all, I think you made the wrong move by just Sleeping with K on the basis of a "friends with benefits" scheme, however since we are already past that, my genuine thought is that, you shouldn't give up, If you think you have a shot with B then go for it, Just make sure that you come clean before you start. Tell be what went on between you and his brother, and don't keep secrets. Secrets just come back to bite you in the ass, whereas honestly leaves nothing for either party to gripe about. Good luck, I hope it works out for you! =)

[Graham Berkeley]

Sounds like you desperately need to grow up, Ekd915.