Confusing situation, need a womans take on it.

[consfusedperson]

hey ladies new on the site, Sorry for the double post but i wanted a womans point of view and advice.

Ok so its been about three months now since me and my ex have broken up or spoken to each other. The break up was pretty bad, tempers were at its peak and we both yelled at each other and said things we didnt mean. There were times in the relationship that we both took each other for granted. and there were times i could feel that we both at least the past year really didnt want it anymore. However, despite all that we cared for each other alot so we tried to make it work.

I felt however that i took more the initative and put more effort in keeping us together and changing my attitude and behavior than she did. Well long story short I broke up with her because all she did with me was argue and just fight about everything everyday. It was getting to a point that i was just getting frustrated because that not what a relationship is about. So I broke up with her, but then realized that it was a stupid arguement and wanted to try and work at our relationship again.

She didnt, I tried to get in contact with her a few times for over a month, got not response so i gave up. I was hoping that staying out of contact both seeing her in person, emails, text, phone calls would slowly make my feelings for her disappear.

Instead it has done the opposite. My feelings i find keep getting stronger for her everyday. Is there a away that i can show her I still care and that i want to try things again after three months?? or is it already to late? Ive also dated these past three months and none of the women Ive dated comapre to her at all. we dated for five years and this was the biggest fight we have ever had, and I really feel like she is the one meant for me. And i want to try and win her back, but not really sure how.

[kay90]

It's like the same with me and my so-called "ex." However, I was in the same situation as you are right now. For the first few weeks after we first broke up, I tried to call, text, and wrote emails to him but he never replies back. Then of course, I got tired of taking the time to write him emails and texts and getting absolutely nothing back. So I tried to forget about him by focusing in school and work. And of course, hanging out with friends. I keep myself busy so that I wouldn't think of him. In fact, I watched the whole 10 episodes of "Friends" every single night for the first week because I would fall asleep and not even think of him. Even after two or three months, I still felt that he was the one for me because we had so much in common and we can act so silly around each other and don't care what each other thinks. I can't do that with anyone else..

However, three months after we broke up/last talked, he texted me and we chatted for like 4 hours straight that very night. And of course, we fought couple times ever since that night, but we still managed to get back to being "friends." We still chat and talk at least three times a week now. So in conclusion, I think you should just keep yourself busy for at least one or two more weeks, and if she still doesn't contact you, then you should move on because why would you want to stay with someone that doesn't even want to talk to you? I think that's the question that you should ask yourself. If she's really the one, then she would have called or at least texted you by now.

[Gigabitch]

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