Help First love came back but im with someone else

[polariswaterx]

To start off Ive been dating this girl for a year and were in love she is one of best people I know. There are things we disagree with each other about but nothing major I was thinking of asking her to marry me on New Years eve until July.

In July the girl I dated when I was 18-20 and we were engaged for a 9 months but before the wedding I got cold feet and left her. I thought she hated me and i've always regretted that decision because our love was more intense than anything i've ever felt before. It's been 8 years since I seen her once I knew she joined the army and left because she didnt want to see me with another girl. She messaged me and said she was coming back on leave from Texas and we talked a bit just as friends. She was complaining that she couldnt afford a car while home and would be using her aunts on the weekends. So I got my parents who have kept in touch with her since we broke up to borrow her an extra car. Within minutes of picking her up at the airport to bring her to the car we hit it off like nothing has changed in 8 years. We hung out for 5 days before she left and she tried to kiss me and I said im seeing someone and she left on the plane it was the hardest thing Ive done since leaving her.

Now we have been talking about our feeling for each other and how that flame is still as hot as the day we fell in love she admitted that she made screenames up to talk to me online cause she missed me and I told her I thought about her every day for 8 years and how it was the biggest mistake of my life.

Im not sure what to do because I do love the one Im with but there is this other side of my that doesnt want to marry the wrong one since I believe Marriage is something that is for ever. But Im not sure I want to spend the rest of my life wondering what if being with her is something that was meant to be.

just looking for opinions thanks. I havent seen her in 3 months but we talk daily and she wants me to come down on Thanksgiving to spend time with her and start over.

[girl68]

You're a dickhead.

Not only have you totally screwed everything you have good with your finace by KNOWING you're going to get all messed up over seeing and talking to your ex... you go ahead anyways. Obviously your new fiance is just a fix for the real deal that you want with your ex.

Damn, I feel sorry for your "second best fiance."

[polariswaterx]

im not engaged.

[FullofSighs]

He was thinking about askering her to marry him, he hasnt actually asked this next girl to marry him yet. But what you should do, is really think about how you feel about your current girl, if your heart is telling you that you used her as a backup then you should break things off with her cuz you'll end up hurting yourself and her in the end. if you feel that you really do love her and you really want to be with her for the rest of your life then go for it, but can't be having the wrong doubts. Don't be having doubts that you'll end up leaving her for your ex or cheating on her with your ex. Get things straight, think about it. And follow your heart

[girl68]

im not engaged.

my bad i misread- my advice doesn't change- finace, girlfriend, doesn't matter.

[Gigabitch]

Do your girlfriend a favor and break up with her. She deserves to find someone who feels about her the way you feel about your ex.

[polariswaterx]

Thanks for the advice I didnt mean for this to happen and never kissed or did anything with my ex while she was here she tried to and I said no im with someone. I guess im just wondering if its just old feelings coming back that will fade because being my first love I know those reactions are stronger than usual. Im thinking of breaking off with my Girlfriend and telling her the situation and that i need time to think so its fair and im not leading someone I care about on.

[RepeatingShot]

damn brah, you need to maybe stop leaving peoples

[FullofSighs]

LOL, you needs to stop being a PLAYER jk

[polariswaterx]

lol player yeah right As far as leaving people I suppose ive done my share but i dont want to marry the wrong person and like I said once I do that its for life unless she chooses differently.

[FullofSighs]

lol, well go get your ex then!!!! what ya doing on here still

[polariswaterx]

Thanks for the advice shes sleeping has to be up at 430 for formation so ill let her sleep tomorrow ill break it off with my current gf and talk to my ex again hopefully it works out. Its going to be hard hurting my gfs feeling though.

[FullofSighs]

Yeah it will, but it'll hurt more if your not feeling the same love she has for you and you keep the realtionship going anyway

[polariswaterx]

Well you helped me a lot thanks. Im gonna do this tomorrow and see where it takes me but to me its better than living through live wondering what could of been

[FullofSighs]

Yeah, it is, what ifs are horrible and they don't let you focus on the now or the future, you'll be stuck in the past with "what ifs"