How long does it usually take to get over someone??

[spaceboy409]

Just curious if anyone can give me some advice or tips how to get over someone??

Me and my ex girlfriend broke up about a month and a half ago and im still just so broken hearted. It got so bad at one point, I had to check myself into a hospital for a week cuz I was so scared I might do something stupid.

Im now taking zoloft but it hasnt totally kicked in yet.

I think about her everday and pretty much all day

I still love her more than anything and I dont know why

what can I do, to put this behind me and move on with my life

Im so scared ill never be happy again

[EndlessRomantic]

I personally have been broken up for 3 months now and i'm still not totally over her. I think about her everyday, pretty much the first and last thing that crosses my miond everyday.

I feel better than how I felt last week which was better than the week before.

I beleive until you meet someone new, you are never truely over someone.

Hope time will help you get better! Hold on Mate

[Chazza2k]

About 3 months, still thinking of her but its nothing like it was at the begining. She's with someone else now and I think I've finally excepted that fact, its been hard to come to terms with but eventually I think your mind starts to realise it. I hit the booze a bit tryin to deal but it didn't help.

Talk to friends and family, (very difficult in my case because no-body knew about us) but I trusted them when it was over. Talk to a councilor if you need too they can help. I been keeping myself busy, with mountain biking, reading books I never got around too, catching up with other friends I neglected whilst I was with her. Focusing on me, whilst I was with my Ex it seemed I was forever putting out fires of hers, sorting this out and that.

Your right Spaceboy, theres this fear of never being happy again within everyone who goes through this, give yourself as much time as you need but realise eventually you will start to move forward, problem with time is it actually takes time. Your not alone in this think everyone here is going through or have been through it.

Goodluck and keep fighting.

[loudrims_inc]

dammm...3 months is a long time for still not getting over someone, IMO...sry to hear that dude

[Chazza2k]

Perhaps loud, but I dont think 3 months is a great deal of time, I have read people posting on this forum have gone on for years and not got over it. I guess everyone is different, read in some book that it takes a 1/4 of the relationship duration to fully get past it, I think that's rubbish to be honest though. There is no hard and fast rule on this, you got one you can write a book

I've been wondering why some of us fall so bad and some can bounce right back, I think its probably to do with how much you love her and how much faith you put in the other person, how much experience you have. With me I put in way too much trust in my ex girl, we were really good friends before we got close but the daft thing was my original feeling of her was that she was untrustworthy, but the more I got close to her the more I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She left when she found someone more suited to her... I'm disapointed in myself really that she knew me so much better than I knew her, still you live and learn eh..

[Rob36]

dont think you can ever put a time frame on it

To sort of answer a couple of people aboves points there are only two things that help- time and another person

Putting a time frame on it wont help.We are all individuals,handle things differently and no one knows the true ins and outs of the situation like you do.

Drinking never helps,though im guilty of dealing with my own situation at the moment in that way.Do as i say dont do as i do i suppose

We will all take our own road in dealing in breaks ups i suppose

Feel your pain though and best wishes

Rob

[Primo]

The feelings slowly fade when they aren't returned, but the best therapy for moving on is meeting someone else. There's a reason that rebound relationships exist, they really do help people transition and move on and if you're lucky maybe find a new love.

[CocoChanel]

How long does it usually take to get over someone??

Oh that's easy!
Five hundred, Twenty-Five Thousand, Six Hundred Minutes!

[kai]

Depends upon person to person. One and half month is less anyway. It'll take time, don't worry. To be honest, I think it's just a mind game. You only have to convince your mind but that's a difficult job. Try doing some meditation and yoga in order to avoid depression.