Your bitching helps you think things through Prodigal. I do it all the time and dont call it bitching, rather VENTING. K~first just because youre a senior now and not having a history of dating doesnt mean youre a "loser". Youre Mr. Nice Guy. And believe it or not, those are the men who will and do have long lasting relationships when the right woman comes along. Your qualties are what MATURE WOMEN look for in a husband. Girls, preteens, or younger women, dont know what they want, us gals go through changes in our lives, as do males. We develop differently at different stages even in the dating game. YUP dating game sucks, thats for sure.
But heres the thing, when I was in HS and I dated those chumps, it was more of a popularity thing, nothing else. Who was dating who, not for anything of substance of what the guy was really like, but where you stood on the social ladder. Its sad, but true, and I almost bet its like that now. I know it is, my son is in HS now, freshman, and I see him and his friends and how they choose theyre weekly girlfriends. Scary. But Ive been there. Ive tried to instill what kind or type of girl they should be looking for to date. But I also dont want to see them committed in a long term 4 year relationship either, theyre so young yet, they need to have experience, good and bad.
I wont deny when he comes home and says he's in love with so and so, but I know it will change in a short time. Anyway, damnit Im ranting. I think Prodigal, that you just remain true to yourself, like you said dont change who you are, because one day, when you least expect it, a woman will come along and appreciate you for who you. As youre senior year plugs along, or speeds along, keep in mind, even if you do find someone whose interesting, dont pass the opportunity up because youre leaving for college, you will never know...take a risk now and then, thats the great thing about life, youre suppose to do things, and LIVE!
I dont think youre really concerned about the other guys out there, those who are gettn the girls, because truthfully, those are the type of guys who may end up in shitty relationships down the road, failed marriages, etc. I know for a FACT those guys in my HS who were players, who slept around, didnt give two shits about the girls, yea they got married alright, but are now divorced, on 2 marriage, or what have you...point being, true men with qualities of Mr. Nice Guy may have the yucky end of the stick in the beginning, but in the end they get the gold.
Thanks for listening to me VENT! Goodluck and enjoy your senior year Prodigal!
everything happens for a reason...beginning to wonder why.