Is he shy or just not interested

[mandagreene]

I asked out a shy guy who I was sure liked me. He said yes and we've been out twice, I asked both times.
I told him I liked him and he said he'd enjoyed my company too and hoped there would be more good times to come.
He hasn't asked me back out but I figured thats because he's shy. I asked him out again and he never replied so I sent a text just asking again in case he never got my message. He replied the next day that he was busy but said he'd like to do something next week.
So I replied back saying that was cool and what did he want to do.
Anyway that was 2 days ago and no reply again. I got a delivery report done and I know he got that text!
Is this just shyness or is he not that interested?
What am I meant to do now?

I'm not too concerned that he does not reply to my texts straight away as he lives in a poor signal area and, according to the delivery reports, when I remember to get them, it can take a few hours for him to get my texts.

[Charlie Boy II]

no, he's not interested, sorry.

[ellie]

Back off, let him be the one to contact you next. You've clearly showed him you're interested, he will make a move if he is interested.

[lastwish]

Doesn't sound interested. Even if he's shy, he would reply the message promptly.

[mandagreene]

I think I was 'getting' that he wasn't that interested. What confuses me is why he'd say he 'hoped there would be more good times to come' and say that he'd like to do something next week.
He also quite often will send a text randomly just asking how I am or how was my day.
Most guys I know wouldn't do stuff like that unless there was a bit of interest there.

[ellie]

He might be interested but you are more interested than him. You asked him out both times and told him you liked him and you've been texting him. He's probably flattered you like him, everyone likes to be liked

It's probably a combination of him being shy and not that interested, but still likes you although not as much as you like him.

[mandagreene]

Hmm, ok.
So if he gets back to me, what then? If he does not mention going out, do I?
Or do I not bother replying for a few days?

One thing I know I will not be doing, is texting him!

[Primo]

First reaction, yes, he's not into you and just being polite. Always the possibility he does like you but has something else going on, so be patient. He may contact you down the road, then the ball will be back in your court.

For now, defintely move on.

[ellie]

Let him be, and if he contacts you, let it be a pleasant surprise.

If he calls/texts, act normal. Don't ask him out again, let him pursue you. You already showed him interest. He should ask you out next time. If he doesnt he is not interested.

Even shy people will show interest when they really are interested.

[mature student]

If he does get back to you DONT you text back immediately, Wait he needs to know that you are not waiting on him
Suggest a date but not within a week say you have a friend coming home and will be flat out all week,
Play him really cool even if he txt's a random one asking how you are just reply a happy message saying you have loads on
you need to make him think he need to buck up his act to get you believe me Ive seen it sooo many times its just happened to a cousin of mine it might take him a while but it will work

All the best

[lala0455]

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[ray2oo8]

i am sorry to tell you that he is not interested, and he is too kind to tell you that.

[mandagreene]

Well, its been 4 days now and still nothing.

Next time I think I'll go after someone who has a set!!

[chump4u]

Well, its been 4 days now and still nothing.

Next time I think I'll go after someone who has a set!!

So you think that a guy who doesn't immediately respond to your advances the way you want him to lacks testicles? If that's an attitude you carry around with you, it might explain the fellow's reluctance to get close.

[mandagreene]

No, I don't think like that at all. I'm just frustrated I guess that he wasn't able to tell me how it was instead of trying to be nice about it. I think i've been upfront with him he could have been the same instead of just telling me what he thought I wanted to hear!