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    We work in the same industry.

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    Jesus ****, she needs an exorcism. I'm not even sure if I am qualified to call myself a bitch anymore after hearing that. I'm totally outclassed by that nutcase.

    Sounds like you're doing the right thing by continuing to act like a stable person and letting her show her Daffy Duck side to the world.

    She needs medication. I hope she finds another whipping boy soon, but guys who put up with that shit are few and far between.
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    Well if the Daffy Duck side of her is being viewed by the world why did I get kicked off the crew? I've worked soooo hard on this film before to stopped production.

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    They'll be sorry they did. She's unstable, Graham, and the more everyone else sees it, the better it will be for you.

    I think you should avoid her like the plague. She's not your friend.
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    haa haa haaa. I WISHED my so made $27.50 an hour! Abuse is abuse..mental, physical and emotional. I know that from experience. If you let it go on it will only hurt your confidence and potential and make you bitter. You say she ends each "hang out" with a sudden list of all the things that make me the scum of the universe and how glad she is to have figured out who i was before she married me. What kind of "friend" is that? I know there are 2 sieds to everStaying friends with an ex can be very tricky so I do not, I cut all ties and burn those bridges because it is a waste of time,energy and emotions. They are exes for a reason.
    My boyfriend stayed friends with all his exes and it resulted in nothing but ugly negative situations.
    I advise you to tell your "friend" that you do not think she plays nice and therefore you will not be "hanging out" anymore. You are young,you seem confident in the fact that you are attractive and make a fair living that would satisfy any women. That's my 2 cents. Good luck to you.
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    Maybe its just my ego talking but I'm wondering if this is something I should "fight". I'm debating on calling or going to the directors office and basically telling her I don't see what the problem with allowing me to continue my work remotely and e-mail it into the team as I had basically been doing before. That this decision to go with what the "team" wants doesn't make kicking me out because the creative director has a personal issue with me and her (the director) as the person who has been doing this for a number of years should exercise a certain amount of professionalism. What do you guys think? I'm feeling a little "raped" for lack of a better word after all this.

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    She sounds like someone with BPD
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    a bit high maintanance wouldn't you say?

    you did well to realise this chick will never be happy, she may not have been this way before, but she is pissed you didn't bend to her demands, instead you walked away from her princess like behaviour....good for you

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mishanya View Post
    She sounds like someone with BPD
    Whats BPD?

    you did well to realise this chick will never be happy, she may not have been this way before, but she is pissed you didn't bend to her demands, instead you walked away from her princess like behaviour....good for you
    Thanks for the props but I'm sure she could make me sound equally as... well whatever. I'm wondering if I caused her to be this way...

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    Tell her she is acting like whore and that if she want to keep acting like a whore she is not good enough for the treatement she is getting. Say that if she wants to see what she is worth she should stand on a street corner and let dirty old men poke her in the goolies for 50 bucks a pop then she can see what is worth vs what she is getting and can stop treating people like crap.
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    In the 9 months since the break up I've dated 8 women. 6 of them multiple times and and 3 of them I'm regularly in contact with... Their great women but I don't feel attracted to them after a couple dates. I won't be intimate with a woman if nothing is there and after a couple of dates I loose interest in "trying" to get it there. The good times with my Ex were so good... I'm coming to the realization I will not likely be that happy with a woman ever again. I was married for 4 years to a woman I wasn't as happy with as i was with my ex when the times were good. How it was like we were carved out of wood for each other... I feel this cold and black wall in front of me now... I shouldn't be feeling this way after so long unless something is very wrong...

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    Just thought I would post this... 4 days ago I needed to get some information for tax purposes for that gig I was working on with her. My spaced her. Asked her politely and buisnessy. She co-operated but ended the e-mail with "Go to hell and don't ever contact me again!" I replied with "Well let me know if you need anything. Thanks." and then she replied back with "As long as I live I will never ask you for anything. All I ask is that you treat me as if I never happened!!!" I didn't reply but noticed she either deleted or turned her myspace invisible to look deleted. If I could have gotten the info elsewhere I would have. This shit still screws me up... I don't know if she is this angry because I hurt her so bad and was some out of control demon, she acts like I raped her, or if this is some manipulative game... I don't understand why even a year... Whatever...
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    Graham, what is it, exactly, that you did that hurt her so much? If she were sitting right next to me, what stories would she tell? Did you cheat on her? Hit her? WTF?
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    No nothing like that.

    I had come from a 4 year relationship. She had never had one. I tried to steer our relationship in certain directions I was used to. She wanted something more innocent and non committal most of the time. She seemed to be happy with me coming to her house (30 mile drive) spending a few days with her have some sex and then go home. If I asked for more I.E. her coming to my house to spend a few days, meeting my parents or even a blow job, she would start a long diatribe about how I should respect her and be thankful for however much or little she gives and If I really love her I would let her call the shots. I think I was mean and argumentative when asking for mine...

    She also was regularly dragged off to Italy by her psychotically attached and VERY verbally abusive mother. When her mother told her to hop she would ask how high and leave for sometimes a month.

    Her mother was out here terrorizing her about her weight, money situation, that she was dating below her caliber... After her mother would screw with her she would call me and take it out on me. Feeling ignored I reacted poorly, broke up with her, dropped off her things at her house unannounced in front of her mother and stop speaking to her. I was so angry. She called me and I told her I was busy and was dating other women even though I wasn't. I began writing my frustrations with her and the relationship down in a little journal.

    Accidentally left my bag, with the journal in it, at a mutual friends house. She found it and was mortified by its contents. When I found out it crushed me. Didn't do a good job of hiding it but I hadn't intended her to see it. I didn't think she would go looking. I didn't want to take that anger and frustration out on her so I wrote it in a journal.

    When I found out I rushed to her house. I apologized profusely. She cried uncontrollably. At the end she calmed down and hugged me and said she just didn't see herself with me ever again. Thats fine. I mean I did break up with her...

    For the next few months we kept in causal contact. She would periodically call me to ask how I was and I would reciprocate. We wrote a couple sweet letters back and forth...

    Eventually she became more and more bitter and poisonous. One day we met for lunch. Everything went great till the end. As we parted way she began to cry and get angry and said she would never date me again because I made her feel violated. I took her home in a cab and held her while she cried the whole time while she ripped me a new one. Since then any encounter I have with her no matter how small or casual is filled with her being psychotically angry at me...

    She must have felt betrayed by me for the way I reacted and with a highly abusive mother is feeling unsafe and hurt and angry and has her guns ready to fire If I pop my head up...
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    Dear god this woman is poison, Graham. Seriously. A total nut job (I bet her mother has a lot to do with it, but that's not YOUR problem). I would avoid contact with her at all costs. I don't know what these things are that keep coming up that require you to be in contact, but are they avoidable? Btw, she can't get a restraining order against you without showing some proof of harassment.....of which there is none. I would keep copies of all the shit she says to you in case you ever have to use it to defend yourself in court.

    I would've fought for that film project too, legally if you had to.

    Anyways, I would stop analyzing why she treated you this way, and where your blame was in all of this. Maybe just accept that she has a venomous personality that you didn't catch when you first met her. Chalk it up to a very bad experience, and cut ties and move on. There's really no need to think about this anymore, or be in contact with her anymore.
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