My ex and I dated for two years and broke up over the past summer. I haven't talked to him in a couple months, but we tried being friends right after the break-up (before he started dating a friend of mine, who was dating one of his best friends for four years before they broke up, and two weeks later he started dating her...).
I'm glad that I can say that I'm over him and am not interested in being with him. It was more or less a typical situation to happen in someone's twenties: I grew up and he didn't, caused a lot of arguments and problems. I realize now that he is not the type of guy I want to be with and that our values were too different. I'm not bitter anymore and I hope he's happy.
It's weird because I don't really care to be friends with him because I'm a lot happier now without him in my life. If anything, I feel bad for him because his girlfriend sneaks around to hang out with her ex and even begged him to take her back. They're both rebounds for each other, really, but I think she means more to him than he does to her. I wouldn't say anything to him, of course, because it's not my place.
I'm thinking about contacting him to catch up, though. Bad idea? I feel weird about it because I don't care to be friends with him so it seems kind of pointless. However, I'm curious and my friends bring him up and gossip about him with me at least once a week, so I think about him (honestly, I'm tired of hearing stories about him). I'm nosy and can't help it, though. I know he's at least thought about me some because a few weeks ago he texted me saying that he wishes we could be friends (I politely declined) and then he wrote on my facebook after I said no (told him "no" at least three times before the FB deal, other than the random text).
Think it would be an OK idea to catch up? Sorry this post is so long.