Wanted: Advice --- Please.
Hello everyone. I need your help.
I broke up with my love (who I still love at this time) about 4-5 months ago. Today, I know I am just as in love with her as I was before. The problem though is that the girl no longer responds to my e-mails. I've heard from other people that she has said that she misses me and would like to talk to me. That was about a month ago.
Recently (within the last month and a half) I've written her e-mail letters with things I should have told her when we were going out. Things that I was afraid to tell her. Things that probably contributed to our break up. I wanted everything that I was holding in to be set free. I got minimal response from her regarding those letters.
Now, I have the most greatest desire to be her friend again. Honestly, right now, I just want to be her friend. It saddens me to think that we went from being so much, to being so little now. We don't even talk now. I wrote this to her in a letter, and I awaited a response. It's been almost two weeks now.
My question to all of you is: Do I try to be friends with her, or do I just let things go ?
I really do want to be friends, but I am terribly afraid that I may look like an obsessive/psychotic boyfried who won't let things go. I don't want to constantly mail her. As the proverb goes, patience is a virtue. I am trying to be patient.
These are my options:
1) Just drop everything. But with that I may lose one of the best friends I've ever had.
2) Pursue on with trying to be her friend. Attempt to establish a line of communication. But with this, I don't want to pressure her, look obsessive/stuck on her.
I'm in a catch-22.
I know it may look as though I am stuck on her, but to me, it isn't 'stuck,' it's my conscience torturing me for all the things that I have done after and during our break up.
I just want to try and clear everything up, and be her friend again.
Please, give me all your input fellow friends. It is much needed.
Thank-you,
"I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see."
- John Burroughs