First time visitor and poster here.
Here is the situation.
Wedding is 3 weeks away. For about the last 2-3 months, I have been wavering back and forth about proceeding with the ceremony. Reasoning being I am not sure I am getting married for all of the right reasons, I dont think I am getting married for me, I believe that I am 100% doing it for my fiancee. We dated for 5+ years and I felt the pressure to basically poop or get off the pot. I guess more than pressure, as I had a semi ultimatum, she wanted to be engaged by the end of last year, so I did it. Additionally, I am not 100% sure she is my soul mate. I thought she was or would be, but lately the littlest things just seem to bug me the way they never did before.
So here are what I see as my options:
1) Man up and go thru with the ceremony and dont look back, dont think about all of the questions going thru my head. Hope for the best in life.
2) Postpone the ceremony, talk thru all the crap that is going thru my head and possibly reschedule next year. I am more than willing to eat all of the deposits we have put down.
Is there an option #3? If so, please weigh in.
Also, this has nothing to do with cold feet, I just want to be sure that I am making the correct decisions in life. I do not want us to become a statistic, that being divorced in no time.
Thanks for any advice or experiences anyone can provide.