Need Help!!!!

[chillingsr]

Okay, may remember my posts about my ex of 4 1/2 years and all the sh*t I went through. Well its been almost 4 months since being broken up with the ex and like almost 2 months of straight NC. I eventually started healing and changing my daily routine. Went back out into the dating scene and started having fun again. Well about 2 1/2 weeks ago I started talking to some girl I used to talk to about 5 years ago. Only problem she is my friends ex-girlfriend and I know he still has feelings for her. They had been off and on for about 4 years. They kind of mutually broke up over a month ago and they don't talk anymore. Well I guess she has wanted to be with me since we were talking about 5 years ago. So we started hanging out and getting pretty close. We have a great time hanging out and we both think that there is something there. Well in our small town sh*t gets started and out of the clear blue my ex calls me today, flipping out saying how could you sleep with this girl and all kinds of stuff like that. I'm like I haven't slept with her calm down and why do you care anyway, you are the one that broke up with me and wanted to be alone and date other people. She begged me to meet her in person and talk to her about this. I finally give in and she just breaks down in front of me. Telling me she still loves me, she made a huge mistake, she wants me in her life so badly. That she was naive and thought I would always be there and stuff like that. She keeps crying for like an hour straight. I'm like what are you doing, I haven't talked to you or seen you in almost 2 months. I finally calm her down and tell her I am happy now. Simply tell her it was your decision to move on and that she had to now deal with it. Well now I get paranoid and have to tell my friend something because I know he is going to hear bad rumors. So tonight I tell him that I have hung out with his ex a few times and that we talk on the phone. He did not take it very well at all. Telling me that we are boys and that he wouldn't do this to me. So I talk to the girl after this and she is kinda mad. It really sucks because we kinda have to sneak around when we see each other. It is getting bad. We just want to get it out in the open but there are so many problems. I didn't think my ex had any feelings for me and that she would even care. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to stop talking to this girl but I think I might have to. She is a great person and I have a lot of fun with her, but I told her that this isn't going to happen over night. We need to give it a lot time for things to pass through. Not sure where it is going but I fear that if I tell her I don't think we should talk now, she may get really hurt and end up telling her ex that I have been talking and doing other stuff with her. Which in the end would screw me over big time. She would hate me and so would my friend. What the hell should I do? Need some advice. Thanks.

[MJK]

This friend is it a close friend?
If so stay away from his Ex
Girls come and goes, but friends are always there for you, dont screw up your friendship over a girl

And i think you did the right thing with your Ex, she screw up and now she has to live with it

[the_menace]

Yea make her suffer and realize her mistakes. She broke your heart and now, its time to make her feel how you felt when she broke up with you two months ago. About your friend's ex, just forget about her and just stay cool with her without making a relationship. And its true, friends are always going to be there for you no matter what. I would go back to your ex-girlfriend but make her realize first that you're more worth than just being dumped. So that next time, she'll think about it real good before breaking up with you again (if it ever happens).

[chillingsr]

Thanks for the replies. I finally realized what the hell I was doing and realized I needed to tell my friend. It got to the point where she was blackmailing me saying she was going to tell my friend and make my life a living hell if I didn't hang out with her. She was stalking me and I only hung out with her for like 2 weeks. I took it upon myself and called my friend up to tell him what had happened and that I realized I messed up and that she won't leave me alone. It felt so good to tell him. He was pretty upset but he told me not to worry that it would pass. I was so relieved. I told this girl that there is nothing between us and that she needs to stop calling me. She didn't take it so well and for 4 straight days she was stalking me, leaving me text messages, calling me 40 times in arow, leaving threatning voicemails towards me and my ex-girlfriend. She went after my ex-girlfriend. It was a bad situation, but I don't think this girl will be calling me ever again. Way to much stuff has happened in the last 3 1/2 months. Right now the ex and I are talking but I am not letting her back in right now. I am going to make her realize how she made me feel because right now she is going through all the stuff I went through and she is doing the same things to me that I did to her when we first broke up. Hopefully she realizes and everything works out.