Tell me how to snag a girlfriend...

[bloodtippedrose]

I moved a few states away and communication with my "old high school" friends diminished because they were turning into drunk people i didnt like.

Now in this state I have no friends so instead I sit at home missing my boyfriend and when he gets home I always interfere on him just wanting to have time doing the boring crap he likes to do.

I'd love a girlfriend to go shopping with and talk to but the only people I seem to get along with are pot heads with kids, and I hate addictive behaviors.. and kids... I thought when I started college that Id make friends more easy but everyone in college is focused on their own path and that seems unrealistic to snag one.

my question is, how do I get a girlfriend? Am I going to use the same tactics as getting a boyfriend (minus the flirting) as in hanging out at places I love and joining clubs and that crap? Or do you think im being too picky and should hang out with the potheads?

[Primo]

Usually when you move to a new place, you start working somewhere and meet people, maybe make a couple friends there or network through their friends. If you have a public type job, you may come across someone that you have common interests with doing that.

At the Uni, clubs or events could be good. Even do something different you don't normally do and see who's around. Alot of times a group of girls will invite you to do something, then you'll find one or two that you have more in common with than the others and kind of get a galpal.

In the meantime, we need to keep you occupied...I'm thinking, I'm thinking ! :-D

[girl68]

start being more social in the situations you are in. work and school, just talk to more people more often.

otherwise yes, you need to start getting out more, and doing the stuff you like to do and then you have to be more social.

[Gigabitch]

I met lots of friends in college because we had study groups. I'm thinking specifically of a time when I was taking calculus, physics and chemistry in the same semester and it was pretty grueling- studying late every night. A group of us started meeting at a coffeehouse to study and I'm still pretty close with a few of them.

This could work for you.

[bloodtippedrose]

Usually when you move to a new place, you start working somewhere and meet people, maybe make a couple friends there or network through their friends. If you have a public type job, you may come across someone that you have common interests with doing that.

i didnt just move here its been like, two years now :/ and I do work publicly but those arent the kindve people- trust me Im not just being a bitch there. "do something different you don't normally do and see who's around" might be a good idea. Ive always thought doing something I like to do would find people with the same interests but I started going to a bowling alley every thursday night to watch my boyfriend bowl in league and I made friends with his whole team. Of course Im a young 21 year old and theyre all older men.. but still social interaction feels really nice and it was something i wouldnt have done.

start being more social in the situations you are in. work and school, just talk to more people more often..

true. I keep to myself at school alot. When i get into my option I will speak up alot more. Those people I know I'll be seeing every quarter unlike the pre reqs Ive been taking

I met lots of friends in college because we had study groups. I'm thinking specifically of a time when I was taking calculus, physics and chemistry in the same semester and it was pretty grueling- studying late every night. A group of us started meeting at a coffeehouse to study and I'm still pretty close with a few of them.

This could work for you.

good idea for when I get to a class thats not so easy. When I was taking english our teacher forced us to be in groups and we got along really well. The quarter ended too soon..