Too much soon?

[chillpill]

My situation:
finalizing divorce this month.
Dating since Feb (separated for a year now).

My GF wants me over at her house all the time. I am busy with a home business, I have my son on weekends (she is divorced with a son too) and do reserve weekends for her and the kids (Fri-Sun). She broke up with me for the second time 1.5 weeks ago and wants me back again now.

I just don't have the time to give her the attention level she wants but she insists that I'm "The One" and if I only did what she wanted that my life would be better.

I do love being with her on the weekends, when I can, but that's not enough for her. She insists that I'm just using her as my "good-time girl". I do miss her but I don't think I can make her happy. I don't think it's possible to make anyone happy right now so I've more or less decided to fly solo til I have the time to dedicate to a relationship.

It's not about money, she's a lawyer and financially secure. She makes more than I do.

My whole thing is with the divorce and child support I'm barely scraping by. I have more time than money so I'm trying to capitalize on this and better my financial position. I have my son Fri-Mon every week. The rest of the time I'm working on the business.

She insists that I'm making a huge mistake.

I'm at a loss. I miss her, but I hate to disappoint her and that's all I seem to be able to do when we are together.

She wants phone calls all the time, overnights during the week etc etc etc. God help me if I forget to call her because I have a crazy day.

When we were dating it was driving me crazy. Since she broke up with me she's gone lawyer on me and has written up the equivalent of case briefs on why everything I do is wrong.

/sigh

As much as it hurts I feel like I need to let this one go and start ignoring her. I really miss her though and it's hard to do.

I guess what I'm asking is am I making a mistake? Should she understand that weeknights aren't good for me and cut me some slack or am I really being an insensitive clod?

I need the perspective of a woman on this. My guy friends are just like "run, run as fast as you can!"

[vashti]

i agree with your guy friends.

And forthe record, I think whatever time you can get for leisure should be spent with your son, not entertaining a woman (except on days when he is with his momma). I hope his mom does likewise.

Not to sound insensitive, but your son needs you, and she just wants you. It'snot fair that he should miss out on having your undivided attention.

[Gigabitch]

She's not paying attention to what's right in front of her face. You might be Mr. Right, but you're not Mr. Right Now. She's going to blow it by pushing too hard.

This shows how inconsiderate and unobservant she is. Aren't you lucky she's shown you these tragic flaws before you get too involved? I don't know if you need to run, run, run but you should definitely start drawing some harder boundaries.