Did he actually like me or was it al BS??

[swtbttrfly23]

Ok, so I apologize upfront because this will get a little bit long, but I am so confused about it! And I need brutal honesty, no matter how mean, I need to know the truth, so maybe you guys can give me some insight....

Ok, so I met this guy about a year ago, we worked together on a short-term project. When I met him I wasn't immediately attracted to him, I was more excited about doing my job well. I was my usual flirty, sweet, genuine self with him, even though a couple days in I was sort of looking at someone else! But this guy started flirting a lot with me, at first it was subtle but only a couple weeks in he started laying it on thick-sitting in my lap, asking for massages, telling a co-worker that I was the highlight of his day (but saying it in front of me), and staring at me ALL THE TIME. It actually was very sweet, and he did grow on me a bit, but I figured it was just harmless flirting so I brushed it off for the most part. He just layed it on even thicker, and by the end of the project I figured 'what the hell, he's cute, it's not like we have to get married or something, so I'll give it a go'.
Well, the project ended and we emailed back and forth a little bit, never anything that serious but pretty much just light and friendly. But he was taking forever considering he was so intent on hooking up, so finally I just emailed him and asked if he wanted to do something sometime (we never exchanged numbers). He sent me some bullshit reply about being really busy, blah blah blah.
I forgot about him for a while, but the reason I've started thinking about him again is that I'm going to be seeing him soon for a party for the project we did a year ago. I'm still so confused about the situation, and part of me is curious about what could have been but part of me is still very hurt by his actions. Was it all just a game to him? Was it all BS? Or did I screw up by asking him to do something?

Please, complete honesty. I want to try and figure this out before I have to see him again. Thanks in advance!

[Bumble_bee]

perhaps he was looking for an office fling and nothing more, and now that the project is over...so is the possibilty of a no strings attached workplace hoohaaa.....

when you go to the party,say hi, a couple of brief words and thats it, keep making subtle eye contact, you want him to question whether he passed on a good thing...and if you act like you don't give a damn...he might be intrigued a little, and you know be prepared that not every guy wants to jump in the sack with you = relationship....some are just happy to do the former.

[Primo]

BB is right that it might have been a "heat of the moment" type of thing, being attracted to you while you were working together, it's happened to me too and when the seperation came my interest quickly redirected elsewhere.

Or could be that whatever short interim you didn't email or chat, his flirting paid off with someone else and he's with them now, not thinking about you anymore.

Definitely one or the other, something obviously changed.