About 6mos ago I met a man. Well, he's a young man. I am much older than him. He seemed alot more mature than he actually is, and there was an immediate chemistry.
I know he is intimidated by me. I make more money. I have more in general than he does. He shakes when I am near and generally acts nervous.
After a very long flirtation, we finally got together. It was fantastic. For both of us. Since then, he has been giving me mixed messages. Its not that different then before but now I am different because I expected more. He hasnt tried to sleep with me again. This is throwing me for a loop. I know it was good. No doubt about it. If anything, I think he has never been with an older woman before, and was very surprised at how good it could actually be. I think his quote was 'i cant believe ive been wasting my time with these little girls'.
Afterwards, he was very cuddly. He didnt run away. If anything, he got closer. Then...he ran. Distant. Ignoring me. Drove me crazy. Hed insist he wasnt ignoring me, but he was. Then he'd do something like leave work to come see me. I went to see him with some friends one night, and he made a big display out of impressing me. In fact, altho he never makes the first move or initiates it, when I do see him, he goes way out of his way to impress me in whatever way that he can. He's extremely immature in his behavior yet I cant seem to shake these feelings for him.
I keep asking him to clarify, to tell me he's not interested so at least i can stop pursuing him. He wont. He literally just ignores that part of my question and will address something else.
Granted, I tend to get passionate in many ways. He's often left asking "whats wrong??" and is truly clueless about what is wrong. The last time i saw him he would run away from me every time I would come near him, but then do something stupid like dance near me, kiss me and then run away.
i cant believe im engaging with this kind of immaturity, but its making me crazy. why wouldnt he want to sleep with me again. Why wont he tell me that hes not interested. what is his problem? what is mine for even dealing with it.
BTW, I have put an end to this. I told him to grow up and let me know when he was ready to handle something real with me and quit the games. Meanwhile, im just trying to decipher his behaviour. Any ideas?