well i have friends that are twin guys..one is gay and one is absolutely straight.
well i have friends that are twin guys..one is gay and one is absolutely straight.
Wow. I just realized, I know two twins that are in the same boat, knew them forever. One just recently came out... his twin brother pretty much knew for a long time though. Further solidifying my point.
Initials, this was Aeradalia's point, people aren't going to even want to try to understand, so you can quit telling everyone that they don't know anything about it....because no-one gives a damn about finding out. Look at the discussion on mini-skirts...I mean do you see our different perceptions of people when we see them dress outside of what we think is respectable?
Why, why would you want to add to your heartache by outing yourself? at home, to us on this anonymous forum you are safe to acknowledge and accept what your orientation is, but your talking like people HAVE to and SHOULD accept it too......you are intelligent enough to know that this is not how society works.
I can't imagine what would happen if you came out to your family, I'm pretty sure it woulld take them a long while before they could accept it, if they could even accept it at all.
As for others, you will isolate yourself so much, people will report you, you will be investigated , poked and proded, and scrutinized.
the more you read up, the more your convinced it is ok to be what you are. But the people do not give a damn, and you know it. POleas edon't put yourself in suh a horrid position. The only time where I would tell you to consider coming out is a) when you thought you were ready to have physical encounters with a canine, and b) if you lived where it is not illiegal.
o he's been banned....
yeah...teach me to skip thread content ..pft...
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
Who banned Initials?
Spammer Spanker
Yeah, why did he get banned?
I thought it a little harsh...i dont think he was trolling..just being honest about his zoophilia
It's not like he just signed up. He's been on the boards for a little bit now. Contributing to threads other than this one.
Initials impressed me as an intelligent and polite fellow-- more intelligent and far more polite than the average internet conversationalist.
And I can't see any "troll" about him. He wrote around 80 posts, and nearly all of them before this thread were well-written, thoughtful, and non-aggressive-- which is pretty much the opposite of what you'd expect from a troll.
When in trouble,
Or in doubt,
Run in circles,
Scream and shout.
Obviously touched a nerve with a mod...
Dammit... I leave for a day and someone gets banned for being a zoophile?
I can understand his frustrations (hypothetically anyway -- being bisexual in a podunk town is difficult enough) and how he felt threatened by everyone here (even if this really wasn't the case).
It's no fun feeling like you're the odd-thing in a game of "which one of these is not like the others." Hell, being bisexual growing up was bad enough. I remember being beaten by boys and girls alike -- and that was for a 'weirdness' that's more or less finding acceptance in society. I can only imagine how horrible it must be to have a paraphilia that is just about universally unacceptable.
Initials has my deepest sympathies... I just wish he could've been a little better prepared for his "trial-run" on this forum, because real-life will be 10 times worse. He's going to need one hell of a thick skin if he's ever going to survive the onslaught he seems so hellbent on bringing on himself.
Btw... who did ban him? Just curious...
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen
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I was going to write a little something to Initials before he fell off the face of the earth. Perhaps it's still useful.
Initials needs to realize that his "orientation" is exceptionally bothersome to people not only because of "moral" objections, but also because to most people sexual attraction to something other than another human is literally unthinkable; there simply isn't a mental resource that lets "normal" people imagine themselves in a zoophile's place in the way that they can imagine themselves in a homosexual's or bisexual's place.
His problem in seeking "understanding" is that the human mind is not built to understand that.
When in trouble,
Or in doubt,
Run in circles,
Scream and shout.